My "To-Don't" List
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My "To-Don't" List
Here's Al-Anon giving me permission, yet again, to be me and to live my life for me in a healthy way.
From Courage To Change (One Day At A Time In Al-Anon II), Dec. 16, p. 351:
I was convinced that I had to take care of everything and everybody--I had no choice. But with the help of Al-Anon I have learned that, while I do have responsibilities, there are also many things I do not have to do:
I don't have to understand everything. Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sense to me.
I don't have to be reluctant to show my feelings. When I'm happy, I can give in to it! When I'm not, I can turn to my Al-Anon friends who help me to grow through the tough times.
I don't have to feel threatened by the future. I can take life one day at a time.
I don't have to feel guilty about the past. With the help of the Steps, especially Eight and Nine, I can make amends and learn from the mistakes I have made.
I don't have to feel alone. I can go to a meeting, or pick up the phone--there is always somebody to reach out to in Al-Anon.
I don't have to take responsibility for other people's choices. They have their own Higher Power to help them make their decisions.
I don't have to give up on my hopes and dreams--my Higher Power is not limited by my lack of imagination.
From Courage To Change (One Day At A Time In Al-Anon II), Dec. 16, p. 351:
I was convinced that I had to take care of everything and everybody--I had no choice. But with the help of Al-Anon I have learned that, while I do have responsibilities, there are also many things I do not have to do:
I don't have to understand everything. Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sense to me.
I don't have to be reluctant to show my feelings. When I'm happy, I can give in to it! When I'm not, I can turn to my Al-Anon friends who help me to grow through the tough times.
I don't have to feel threatened by the future. I can take life one day at a time.
I don't have to feel guilty about the past. With the help of the Steps, especially Eight and Nine, I can make amends and learn from the mistakes I have made.
I don't have to feel alone. I can go to a meeting, or pick up the phone--there is always somebody to reach out to in Al-Anon.
I don't have to take responsibility for other people's choices. They have their own Higher Power to help them make their decisions.
I don't have to give up on my hopes and dreams--my Higher Power is not limited by my lack of imagination.
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The first one for me, is the first domino. If I continue to remind myself of this, I find that I dont start in as quick, with controlling behavior.
If I dont understand something, why would I think I could fix or control it?
Would I try to disassemble a nuclear weapon? I think not. I have no training for that, and clearly would make a bigger mess of the situation, while causing potential harm to others becuase I dont understand it.
I will keep my hands out of others affairs, just for today.
The first one for me, is the first domino. If I continue to remind myself of this, I find that I dont start in as quick, with controlling behavior.
If I dont understand something, why would I think I could fix or control it?
Would I try to disassemble a nuclear weapon? I think not. I have no training for that, and clearly would make a bigger mess of the situation, while causing potential harm to others becuase I dont understand it.
I will keep my hands out of others affairs, just for today.
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