Missing In Action At SR
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Missing In Action At SR
I was just thinking after Angel did her this about all the people that we know and Have not seen them here at SR so I figured that we could let them Know that they are thought over from Time to Time. Who do you know that is Missing In Action.1. Maria83
2. NA4today
3. MagdaM
We miss you guys and hope that you are alive and well.
Love Vic
alconaut
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Motor City
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This is such a sweet thread. I haven't been around long enough to grow fond of someone and see them leave.... I guess it must make you wonder if they're ok. I know my mind would run wild for awhile.
For you guys who have been here awhile - how do you deal with it? How does it make you feel when you grow to care about someone and they go back to using, or just plain disappear?? How do you keep from becoming too emotionally involved with another poster who you think might go back to using?
For anyone who has these answers, please, please let me know. 'Cause I'm the type who might not be able to handle such a situation without some real negative emotional effect.
TIA
xo
For you guys who have been here awhile - how do you deal with it? How does it make you feel when you grow to care about someone and they go back to using, or just plain disappear?? How do you keep from becoming too emotionally involved with another poster who you think might go back to using?
For anyone who has these answers, please, please let me know. 'Cause I'm the type who might not be able to handle such a situation without some real negative emotional effect.
TIA
xo
Gobble, Gobble
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: california
Posts: 236
I've not been here
longer than you I think but here's how I deal with it. I live with my husband who is a drinker. Yes I am ecstatic when he is not drinking but when he does drink, I don't allow it to ruin my own progress. You can't let others drinking affect you. You quit for your own personal reasons. When some one you know and love drinks and or gets drunk, those personal reasons you chose to quit DO NOT change.
I feel sadness when I realize one of our people have fallen off. I use that sadness. I reconfirm with myself on my reasons for quitting. How I feel now that I have quit, I remember the times when I was drinking and remember the bad things. I want to remember so that I don't lose perspective on WHY I quit.
So use it. When you're sad, reconfirm why you are here. List your pros and cons. The pros of sobriety are awesome!!
I feel sadness when I realize one of our people have fallen off. I use that sadness. I reconfirm with myself on my reasons for quitting. How I feel now that I have quit, I remember the times when I was drinking and remember the bad things. I want to remember so that I don't lose perspective on WHY I quit.
So use it. When you're sad, reconfirm why you are here. List your pros and cons. The pros of sobriety are awesome!!
alconaut
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Motor City
Posts: 729
Originally Posted by 4health
longer than you I think but here's how I deal with it. I live with my husband who is a drinker. Yes I am ecstatic when he is not drinking but when he does drink, I don't allow it to ruin my own progress. You can't let others drinking affect you. You quit for your own personal reasons. When some one you know and love drinks and or gets drunk, those personal reasons you chose to quit DO NOT change.
I won't allow anyone else's relapses affect my progress, either.
I feel sadness when I realize one of our people have fallen off. I use that sadness. I reconfirm with myself on my reasons for quitting. How I feel now that I have quit, I remember the times when I was drinking and remember the bad things. I want to remember so that I don't lose perspective on WHY I quit.
So use it. When you're sad, reconfirm why you are here. List your pros and cons. The pros of sobriety are awesome!!
So use it. When you're sad, reconfirm why you are here. List your pros and cons. The pros of sobriety are awesome!!
xo
(Sorry for hijacking your thread, Vic...)
Future Philanthropist
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Philadelphia, PA
Posts: 233
Maria83 is both alive and well. We keep in touch semi-regularly, she lives about a mile from me.
NA4today, last I heard, was going into some sort of two month treatment in the beginning of Sept. I imagine we'll be hearing from her in the future.
NA4today, last I heard, was going into some sort of two month treatment in the beginning of Sept. I imagine we'll be hearing from her in the future.
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