minnie

This is from "Beyond Codependency" by Melody Beattie.


1. maintaining appropriate daily routine
2. setting and achieving daily and long-term goals
3. personal care
4. setting and sticking to limits with children and others
5. constructive planning
6. appropriate decision-making and problem-solving efforts
7. choosing behaviors
8. well-rested
9. resentment-free
10. accepting (versus denying)
11. not controlling others nor feeling controlled by them
12. open to appropriate criticism and feedback
13. free of excessive criticism of self and others
14. gratitude versus self-pity and deprivation
15. responsible financial decisions (not over-or underspending)
16. appropriate nutrition (not over-or undereating)
17. not escaping or avoiding through work or sex
18. self-responsibility (versus scapegoating and blaming)
19. valuing wants and needs
20. free of victim self-image
21. free of fear and anxiety
22. free of guilt and shame
23. free of worry and obession
24. not feeling excessively responsible for others
25. faith in a higher power
26. trusting and valuing self
27. making appropriate decisions about trusting others
28. maintaining recovery routine (attending support groups)
29. mind clear and peaceful; logical thinking; free of confusion
30. feeling and dealing appropriately with feelings, including anger
31. appropriately disclosing
32. reasonable expectations of self and others
33. needing people versus NEEDING them
34. feeling secure with self; self-affirming
35. communicating clearly, directly, and honestly
36. balanced mood
37. maintaining contact with friends
38. feeling connected and close to people versus lonely and isolated
39. healthy perspective; life looks worth living
40. not using alcohol and medication to cope
41. having fun, relaxing during leisure activities, enjoying routine
42. giving appropriate positive feedback to self and others
43. getting--and allowing self to believe--positive feedback"

So how are we all doing? I can tick 24, although some are a bit shaky. At least I know where to put my focus.

FriendofBill

31 for me, but not necessarily the ones I would prefer.

Good post, Minnie...I am going to incorporate many of these in my daily checklist.

Thanks, Mate!

Minx1969

Maybe 34..but think it depends on the day..

Still lots of issues with worry and anxiety!!

elizabeth1979

I struggle with 23 and 24 the most!

GettingBy

31 for me too! I haven't exactly been on top of 1,2 and 3... and those are the ones that I need most!

That is a nice reality check! Thanks Minnie!
Shannon