aadako

So, I know. It's been awhile since i've put a post up... because things were going really good for awhile. However, things have heated up lately. My boyfriend and I get into arguments frequently over alcohol. He's been to rehab before for substance abuse, but alcohol wasn't one of the substances he abused. Should I be concerned about cross addiction? I mean, does that happen to everyone? Are there exceptions? It's hard to be in a relationship with him sometimes because he's always changing his mind on drinking and so am I. I feel selfish by telling him not to drink, but I feel angry when he does drink...and it's not like he drinks to get drunk, but just to "get a good buzz." So if anyone has some input on this, it'd be great! thanx bunches,
Aaron

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If his drinking is causing problems, it is a problem.

If his changing his mind is causing problems, it is a problem.

Cross addiction or not... a problem is a problem.

From what you posted, you will need look things over and figure out if the problem is his actions or your reaction to his actions.

Can't change him, so maybe you will want to see if you need to think things over a bit. Set boundaries if need be or seek change in self if need be.
May want to look into meetings with Al Anon or Nar Anon. You could get some great support and answers at such meetings.

FriendofBill

Alcohol is a drug. Enough said.

Ever try al-anon?