So proud of my son
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So proud of my son
Today, my son went to an AA conference. He's working really hard to maintain his sobriety. Even yesterday, he admitted to having the strong desire to get sh*t faced. No reason...just felt the need to drink.
It's been a long hard road for him. He started at 18 and is now 25. He'll celebrate 6 months sobriety on Monday.
I still worry then mentally slap myself and tell myself not to go there. I try not to allow his disease to rent space in my head. But it happens. But as time goes on, it gets easier.
We've watched him pull his health together which includes his depression. He's established in a job and they love him. He's accomplished more in the last 6 months then he has in the last 6 years.
It's one of those moments where your heart feels so full of love and hope for the future, but I know I've got to take it one day at a time. None of us knows what's going to happen tomorrow.
He's taking a vacation in a couple of weeks and will be around a lot of drinkers. I didn't come right out and say anything, but I think I heard myself say, "think long and hard about where you're going". I got the look...raised eyebrow and the "I know Mom".
So today, I will celebrate his sobriety and his desire to make it work. And I pray that other kids will be given the gift of sobriety...even if it's just one day.
Blessings
It's been a long hard road for him. He started at 18 and is now 25. He'll celebrate 6 months sobriety on Monday.
I still worry then mentally slap myself and tell myself not to go there. I try not to allow his disease to rent space in my head. But it happens. But as time goes on, it gets easier.
We've watched him pull his health together which includes his depression. He's established in a job and they love him. He's accomplished more in the last 6 months then he has in the last 6 years.
It's one of those moments where your heart feels so full of love and hope for the future, but I know I've got to take it one day at a time. None of us knows what's going to happen tomorrow.
He's taking a vacation in a couple of weeks and will be around a lot of drinkers. I didn't come right out and say anything, but I think I heard myself say, "think long and hard about where you're going". I got the look...raised eyebrow and the "I know Mom".
So today, I will celebrate his sobriety and his desire to make it work. And I pray that other kids will be given the gift of sobriety...even if it's just one day.
Blessings
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That's wonderful ! You should definitely be proud of him. I can imagine how hard it must be to not "go there" with worry....it's kind of a mother's inclination, I think, lol.
Depression by itself is a tough hill to climb (been there) - nevermind the added difficulty of a chemical dependency. Sounds like a very strong guy !
Depression by itself is a tough hill to climb (been there) - nevermind the added difficulty of a chemical dependency. Sounds like a very strong guy !
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Kathy, how wonderful for your son to have six months of sobriety. As a mother I know you worry, we all do, so don't be too hard on yourself for that. Sounds like he has made incredible progress I am happy for all of you.
Love, Patty
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I am the mother, too, of an alcoholic son. He's been drinking for 20+ years. He just this past week entered a long-term rehab center. I'm so happy and I'm praying so hard that it will work for him.
You can be proud of your son, and I know you are. You also know it's ONE DAY AT A TIME. We MUST be happy and proud of them for getting thru one day, and then another and hopefully many "another days".
My prayers to your son for continued strength and determination. My prayers to you for peace.
Lucybooz
You can be proud of your son, and I know you are. You also know it's ONE DAY AT A TIME. We MUST be happy and proud of them for getting thru one day, and then another and hopefully many "another days".
My prayers to your son for continued strength and determination. My prayers to you for peace.
Lucybooz
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Thanks for responding everyone. I had to share this good fortune for my son and the happiness I am feeling today.
Robina and Lucybooz...there is hope. I never believed I would ever live to see this day and have been blessed in so many ways. We can't give up on them. Being a parent of an alcoholic child is so much more difficult than coping with an alcoholic spouse. My opinion, of course. Guess it's the blood thing.
You are in my prayers that the 2 of you will have the opportunity to see your children restored to good health and sobriety.
Blessings and Grace
Robina and Lucybooz...there is hope. I never believed I would ever live to see this day and have been blessed in so many ways. We can't give up on them. Being a parent of an alcoholic child is so much more difficult than coping with an alcoholic spouse. My opinion, of course. Guess it's the blood thing.
You are in my prayers that the 2 of you will have the opportunity to see your children restored to good health and sobriety.
Blessings and Grace
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Blessing and Grace to you too, gefling. Thank you for your well-wishes.
You are right....it IS a blood thing. No matter how angry I have been at my son, no matter how disappointed I've been with him, no matter how many times I've said, NO MORE.....I STILL HOPE AND PRAY.
I have no crystal ball, and maybe it's better that way, but I will be with him for the long haul, no matter what - he will NEVER be alone while I have breath in my body. I sometimes could cry at how alone he must have been while drinking himself to oblivion. What lonely, horrible feelings he must have had.
Again, God Bless you and your son, now and forever.
Lucybooz
You are right....it IS a blood thing. No matter how angry I have been at my son, no matter how disappointed I've been with him, no matter how many times I've said, NO MORE.....I STILL HOPE AND PRAY.
I have no crystal ball, and maybe it's better that way, but I will be with him for the long haul, no matter what - he will NEVER be alone while I have breath in my body. I sometimes could cry at how alone he must have been while drinking himself to oblivion. What lonely, horrible feelings he must have had.
Again, God Bless you and your son, now and forever.
Lucybooz
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