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Old 06-13-2005, 08:50 PM
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Fiance says he's addicted....needing help

I'm so glad that I found this board because I could really use some help. My fiance told me this evening that he's been addicted to speed for seven years and has been hiding it from everyone. He said that he never had the desire to quit until he met me a year ago and wanted to tell me before we got married. After a weekend of him not coming home and not hearing from him, he decided to come clean with his secret because he said keeping it inside was too exhausting and he needed help. I admire him for his courage. But I feel so scared and helpless. It breaks my heart to see someone I love so much be overpowered by a drug.

I've dealt with addicted family members in the past so I know how destructive drugs can be. But since I've never personally done drugs I don't know how to help him. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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Old 06-13-2005, 09:12 PM
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Welcome to SR,
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Tell your fiance to get
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NA saves my life every day!
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Old 06-13-2005, 09:16 PM
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NA meetings near Mesquite, TX Here is a link to help him find a meeting.

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Old 06-13-2005, 10:01 PM
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Be strong for him and welcome here! Just remember that you can not change anyone they can ONLY CHANGE & HELP THEMSELVES. I can say that from experince suggest he go to a meeting and he will find a TON of support there.

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Old 06-14-2005, 04:48 AM
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Lightbulb Welcome and Hello!

Please check this out got YOU...

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...isplay.php?f=23


Blessings for the 2 of you...
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Old 06-14-2005, 02:33 PM
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Hmmm.. he told you about it so maybe that's a beginning of asking for help?

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Old 06-14-2005, 05:55 PM
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Thank you guys for your advice. He's decided to attend a NA meeting and start speaking with a friend of mine who is a counselor and recovered alcoholic. Thank you again and I'll keep you guys updated.

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Old 06-14-2005, 06:06 PM
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That's good news, glad he's willing to get help. Good luck to you both.
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Old 06-14-2005, 06:12 PM
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You're welcome! That is GREAT news. And do keep in touch!

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Old 06-14-2005, 06:17 PM
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Yes

it is a start for him.

As he has been stoned for the whole time you have been with him..how do you plan to deal with this man seeking recovery?
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Old 06-14-2005, 06:24 PM
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Carol is right...what about you? Addiction is a family disease, and there is support for everyone. Why not come down to the Nar-anon forum, take a read around, and see if anything there is something you like for yourself? (We're a great bunch, I know you'll come to love us...)

My fiance is the addict in my life too. Different doc, but the things that we deal with are pretty similar, no matter what our A's use. Mine is in recovery right now. He had 9 months clean, slipped, and is a week away from 60 days. I worry a little, because before he got 9 months - you got it, he slipped at about 60. Without MY program, I'd be a basket case right now...but I'm not. I owe that to the nar-anon forum here, and my face to face al-anon meetings.

Come on down, take a read around...the sticky posts at the beginning of the forum have especially helpful information, but the best part is the support there. Someone always around, no post EVER goes without a reply around this website, either.
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Old 06-14-2005, 06:57 PM
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Yeah, I am an addict myself so I mostly go to NA, but since my husband is also an addict, I sometimes go to Al-Anon (There is no Nar-Anon here.). It helps remind me that not only am I powerless over my addiction, but I am powerless over HIS as well. And it helps remind me that we each have our own program. I highly recommend it. Best wishes to both of you in your respective recoveries!

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