so i sent him the questionnaire...
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so i sent him the questionnaire...
Are you an alcoholic?
To answer this question, ask yourself the following 20 questions and answer them as honestly as you can.
1. Do you lose time from work due to drinking?
2. Is drinking making your home life unhappy?
3. Do you drink because you are shy with other people?
4. Is drinking affecting your reputation?
5. Have you ever felt remorse after drinking?
6. Have you often gotten into financial difficulties as a result of drinking?
7. Do you turn to lower companions and an inferior environment when drinking?
8. Does your drinking make you careless of your family’s welfare?
9. Has your ambition decreased since drinking?
10. Do you crave a drink at a definite time daily?
11. Do you want a drink the next morning?
12. Does drinking cause you to have difficulty in sleeping?
13. Has your efficiency decreased since drinking?
14. Is drinking jeopardizing your job or business?
15. Do you drink to escape worries or troubles?
16. Do you drink alone?
17. Have you ever had a complete loss of memory as a result of drinking?
18. Has your physician ever treated you for drinking?
19. Do you drink to build up your self-confidence?
20. Have you ever been to a hospital or institution on account of drinking?
so i sent this to my AH. i asked him about it and he said he may have answered yes to a couple of them. i said what about #2-- and he says "no, only my wife has a problem with it".
so i said, "so you're saying your wife is not your family?"
blah blah blah..."so my feelings as the wife don't count?"
HOw many people are in this family? he said there are the kids. "you don't think they are being affected?" BLAH BLAH BLAH.
that says is all doesn't it. he is so twisted to try and convolute the question to fit him with a no. i know now i probably should have moved on and maybe brought up the other obvious questions he would have to say yes to, but he had to go.
funny just moments before this conversation i was marvelling at how much mental clarity i was having at that moment. like my brain is back and working well.
this may have been one of those HP things of "you will know it when you know it", because as soon as he left I had the fortitude to make an appointment with a LAWYER.
yep. guess i finally hit my bottom as well.
To answer this question, ask yourself the following 20 questions and answer them as honestly as you can.
1. Do you lose time from work due to drinking?
2. Is drinking making your home life unhappy?
3. Do you drink because you are shy with other people?
4. Is drinking affecting your reputation?
5. Have you ever felt remorse after drinking?
6. Have you often gotten into financial difficulties as a result of drinking?
7. Do you turn to lower companions and an inferior environment when drinking?
8. Does your drinking make you careless of your family’s welfare?
9. Has your ambition decreased since drinking?
10. Do you crave a drink at a definite time daily?
11. Do you want a drink the next morning?
12. Does drinking cause you to have difficulty in sleeping?
13. Has your efficiency decreased since drinking?
14. Is drinking jeopardizing your job or business?
15. Do you drink to escape worries or troubles?
16. Do you drink alone?
17. Have you ever had a complete loss of memory as a result of drinking?
18. Has your physician ever treated you for drinking?
19. Do you drink to build up your self-confidence?
20. Have you ever been to a hospital or institution on account of drinking?
so i sent this to my AH. i asked him about it and he said he may have answered yes to a couple of them. i said what about #2-- and he says "no, only my wife has a problem with it".
so i said, "so you're saying your wife is not your family?"
blah blah blah..."so my feelings as the wife don't count?"
HOw many people are in this family? he said there are the kids. "you don't think they are being affected?" BLAH BLAH BLAH.
that says is all doesn't it. he is so twisted to try and convolute the question to fit him with a no. i know now i probably should have moved on and maybe brought up the other obvious questions he would have to say yes to, but he had to go.
funny just moments before this conversation i was marvelling at how much mental clarity i was having at that moment. like my brain is back and working well.
this may have been one of those HP things of "you will know it when you know it", because as soon as he left I had the fortitude to make an appointment with a LAWYER.
yep. guess i finally hit my bottom as well.
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Hey escapeartist.
Yeah, his response to that pretty much tells you what you need to know about how much denial he's in.
That questionaire rarely hits home when it is given to someone.
Hoo-boy, that can just make them defensive as hell, ya know?
It usually achieves the desired results when answered honestly by an alcoholic who seeks it out.
Hit your bottom? I don't think so.
Sounds more like you're on your way back up to me.
Yeah, his response to that pretty much tells you what you need to know about how much denial he's in.
That questionaire rarely hits home when it is given to someone.
Hoo-boy, that can just make them defensive as hell, ya know?
It usually achieves the desired results when answered honestly by an alcoholic who seeks it out.
Hit your bottom? I don't think so.
Sounds more like you're on your way back up to me.
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Location: England
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escape artist.
Denial is a funny old thing. We don't often come out of it at the same time as our loved one, which is a huge shame. And isn't it funny how we codies are very good at answering those questionnaires better than our OH's? For them, I mean.
Desired results? Well, honey, you got the answer you needed to move on with your life, so I think you might look back on this as a desired result.
Don't forget we're all here for you.
Love
Minnie
xxx
Denial is a funny old thing. We don't often come out of it at the same time as our loved one, which is a huge shame. And isn't it funny how we codies are very good at answering those questionnaires better than our OH's? For them, I mean.
Desired results? Well, honey, you got the answer you needed to move on with your life, so I think you might look back on this as a desired result.
Don't forget we're all here for you.
Love
Minnie
xxx
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