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Update
Just thought I'd give you all a little update on my situation.
On Friday, I thought that I needed to get out of the business partnership with my ex A. He had breached the good faith clauses in our partnership agreement. However, I knew that I wasn't in the right frame of mind to deal with starting over on my own/in a new job. After all, the past few months have been constant change and we all need time to regroup. So, I have issued him with a formal warning that the partnership will be terminated if he breaks that or any other clauses. It is easier to live with waiting for the other shoe to drop than to start all over again today. Time to get my strength back so that I can deal with it when it happens. And I am under no illusions that it will.
I decided to take the weekend, and do anything other than think about the problem. It worked, by Sunday evening my decision came to me and I felt comfortable with it. And I managed to have a great time without all the stress of forcing a decision.
The answers will come when we are ready.
Thanks for listening.
Love
Minnie
xxx
On Friday, I thought that I needed to get out of the business partnership with my ex A. He had breached the good faith clauses in our partnership agreement. However, I knew that I wasn't in the right frame of mind to deal with starting over on my own/in a new job. After all, the past few months have been constant change and we all need time to regroup. So, I have issued him with a formal warning that the partnership will be terminated if he breaks that or any other clauses. It is easier to live with waiting for the other shoe to drop than to start all over again today. Time to get my strength back so that I can deal with it when it happens. And I am under no illusions that it will.
I decided to take the weekend, and do anything other than think about the problem. It worked, by Sunday evening my decision came to me and I felt comfortable with it. And I managed to have a great time without all the stress of forcing a decision.
The answers will come when we are ready.
Thanks for listening.
Love
Minnie
xxx
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Join Date: Nov 2004
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minnie,sounds like you did the right thing. You have made the decision and are happy with it. Taking the weekend was good.
Keep posting and let us know how the other shoe drops? I am curious to see what he will do now.
Keep posting and let us know how the other shoe drops? I am curious to see what he will do now.
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It worked, by Sunday evening my decision came to me and I felt comfortable with it.
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Join Date: Oct 2003
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Minnie,
I find it fascinating that when I let go of something, I find answers. When I continue to wrestle with things, they seem to get worse. Learning how to do that is a wonderful tool in recovery. I am so happy you have found that same tool. Hugs, Magic
I find it fascinating that when I let go of something, I find answers. When I continue to wrestle with things, they seem to get worse. Learning how to do that is a wonderful tool in recovery. I am so happy you have found that same tool. Hugs, Magic
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Thanks guys
Magic - Although I have read so much about Letting Go, it was actually my Dad who reminded me to do it. He has no knowledge of al-anon apart from what I have talked about. And in December when I split up with my ex, Dad used to call me every morning and say "just focus on today", then hang up. Although I worship my Dad (in a good way!), I never thought my HP would have his voice!
Yes, fighting for a solution doesn't work for me. Leaving it alone does. Seems contradictory somehow.
Love
Minnie
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Magic - Although I have read so much about Letting Go, it was actually my Dad who reminded me to do it. He has no knowledge of al-anon apart from what I have talked about. And in December when I split up with my ex, Dad used to call me every morning and say "just focus on today", then hang up. Although I worship my Dad (in a good way!), I never thought my HP would have his voice!
Yes, fighting for a solution doesn't work for me. Leaving it alone does. Seems contradictory somehow.
Love
Minnie
xx
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Join Date: Apr 2004
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((((Minnie))))
I am so glad that you were able to relax and find a solution.
What you said about your dad really touched me. My dad passed away many years ago but, you know what ...my HPs voice sounds just like his(my dad's)!!! My HP uses the same humor my dad would have too and helps me find away to laugh at myself when I am taking things too seriously....
I am so glad that you were able to relax and find a solution.
What you said about your dad really touched me. My dad passed away many years ago but, you know what ...my HPs voice sounds just like his(my dad's)!!! My HP uses the same humor my dad would have too and helps me find away to laugh at myself when I am taking things too seriously....
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