where there is hope...
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where there is hope...
came back from Cancun to find out the A has a new girlfriend (16 yrs older than me but she drinks). after the Easter Sunday fiasco, i can see now that he chose his addictions over Cancun. heard he is also going to move since there is no reason (ie me) for him to stay here.
all i could do is think. i see him running away. i see him hiding in his addictions. i see him striking out trying to hurt me. i see the true devastation of this disease. and it hurts to see him wasting such a precious gift. life.
we truly do have to detach and respect their choices. his just happen to be his addictions. i am not sad... is that strange? i feel strong really. i have hope some day he might heal. i have hope that there is a God and some day we shall meet again. i have hope that some day he may find life worth living. and living well. and where there is hope.. miracles occur.
so now i move on with my life. not sad that it has ended, but sad for the potential and dreams i had for us that alcoholism has crushed. never have i had a foe like this. something i cannot see, cannot hear, cannot touch.. yet has the ability to destroy so completely.
thanks for all the support lately,
quietsins
all i could do is think. i see him running away. i see him hiding in his addictions. i see him striking out trying to hurt me. i see the true devastation of this disease. and it hurts to see him wasting such a precious gift. life.
we truly do have to detach and respect their choices. his just happen to be his addictions. i am not sad... is that strange? i feel strong really. i have hope some day he might heal. i have hope that there is a God and some day we shall meet again. i have hope that some day he may find life worth living. and living well. and where there is hope.. miracles occur.
so now i move on with my life. not sad that it has ended, but sad for the potential and dreams i had for us that alcoholism has crushed. never have i had a foe like this. something i cannot see, cannot hear, cannot touch.. yet has the ability to destroy so completely.
thanks for all the support lately,
quietsins
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Wow... I hope I can react like you if I get hit with such a scenario, I can understand how you feel about detachment, I've done so and am trying to prepare myself for any decisions that may come. It has helped, and it is amazing what this disease can do. I hate it when people who think they got relationship problems downplay this disease, they have no clue.
Hats off to you....
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Quitsins,
I can read that clipped tone and the anger. But accepting that we can't change them comes with a price. That price is serenity.
Accept the things I cannot change and change the things I can....
(((Hugs)))
JT
I can read that clipped tone and the anger. But accepting that we can't change them comes with a price. That price is serenity.
Accept the things I cannot change and change the things I can....
(((Hugs)))
JT
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