Savana 54

I went in today for a job shadowing type thing, to see if it was something I want to do. This couldn't have come at a better time, as my Exabf left two weeks ago, also left me with all the bills and of course I have no job.

The wages in the state that I'm living in are very low, so I will be making almost have of what I was where I'm orginally from. But this job is better then no job at all I guess..

The only thing I feel bad about is that our lease is up in June, my ex A and I had planned on moving back to where I'm from, I would still like to move if I have the money, only probably without him. Today one of the women that interviewed me asked if I planned on staying in this area for awhile, and I said yes. They have had a high turn over for the position they are trying to fill, within the last few months. I feel dishonest and bad as I may only be living here for a few more months, but I REALLY need a job!!! How should I handle this? Part of me doesn't want to take the job and just move right now, so I can get a better paying job. I just don't want to be stuck in this state and at this low paying job.

I moved here with my X A, this is his home state and I don't really care to live here for to much longer...Agghhhhhh!!!! So many decisions and stress!!!

drgnfly30

Is the lease in your name? If so, you'll be responsible for the rent until the lease is up... If not & you have a place to while you re-establish yourself back home I'd go for it.. the sooner you move on to the next thing the better... But I'm litte confused, you mentioned the move "probably without him" ?

Savana 54

The lease is in both our names. Actually the beginning of June is not that far off. I don't really have any family or friends back where I'm from, most of my old friends are big time partiers, and my best friend from HS and College is an A, I just quit talking to them.

I guess by saying "probably without him" I still think in the back of my mind he will straighten up and we can stick to the orginal plan, but I know that would happen only in a perfect world. I guess I just miss our future plans together...

drgnfly30

Sounds like you have some pros & cons for both decisions... when I find myself faced with those "which way do I go" situations I tend to put it down on paper, list the pros & cons for both ... Sometimes seeing it in black & white makes the decision clearer.

Good Luck!

Savana 54

Thanks Christine!

The way I have been looking at it is, if I have to quit in a few months so be it. I mean I can't worry about everyone's feelings; and I'm the one that will either sink or swim depending on a job. I guess my Dad always said "any job is better then no job."

I just won't be looking forward to telling my potential employer I need to quit down the line. I guess I shouldn't look that far into the future and take it one day at a time, and I know TODAY I need a job!! LOL!