Dogwood

I have a 31 year old daughter that just recently came out of rehab and she
has been clean for 8 months. She has just moved back to Atlanta and has
started hanging out with old friends. I'm scared that she has started using
again - and I feel I can't talk to her about anything and she has been so
moody. I have been told that I'm an enabler and I should start holding
her accountable when she makes bad decisions.

Please give me some feedback on what I should do. I want to help her but
not be an enabler.

Thanks,
Dogwood

½Sane ®

If she’s living in your house lay down a few rules but don’t be overbearing. If she’s moody there’s something causing it to happen. She should be able to talk to you about it and recognize its part of her recovery. If she’s harboring anger or resentments that’s not good. Running with old friends may not be wise either.

Id try focusing on her mood first. It may open a door. Don’t force a discussion. Welcome it.

Also if you’re her Dad. She may have things she'd rather discuss with a female. Keep it in mind.

Dogwood

I am her mother and we have always had a close relationship, but since she has come back to Atlanta, she has been very distant. She lives in an apartment in Marietta. I know she is stressed and has some things to deal with. I think you are right about the mood - I'm going to try to see her this
Saturday and spend some time with her. I know she is upset with her Dad.
We were against her coming back to Atlanta, we think its too soon, too many things to trigger her, and also too close to old friends she use to hang
out with. I'm so scared she will start using again. She went to a few meetings when she first got here, but I don't think she is going now.
Thanks for the feedback, I really need it.

Doug

Welcome to SoberRecovery Dogwood.

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