marka

I am new to this websight and need some help, advice, prayers or whatever in getting over an x-wife that just keeps getting back into my head. Our relationship was very unhealthy but there is just something about the unhealthy part that is very appealing to me. I know we are no good for each other and that I should stay away from old behaviors, but I'm not attracted to healthy women. One of our old sayings is "the sicker they are, the better I like them"
Any advice will be welcomed.
Thanks...Marka

nutz

Welcome to SR
No advice...

My ex-wife had a bumper sticker on her 69 SS
"It takes a bitch like me to luv a buasture like him".lol

I had a sticker on my Iroc
"next stop twiglight zone".lol

oneday i saw a sticker on a beat up truck.
An awakening of some sort.LMAF
"divorced is better than murder"

Wt heck is a healty woman???
when u find 1 let me know.
maybe we clone the crap out of her.

pattyspaw

Marka, stick with the program and you'll find tools to help you work it out in time! I am very lucky to have found a good man, not perfect or totally healthy but i have been asked to have him cloned many times, neither of us was looking - it just happened

Pattyspaw

a true friend is one who reaches for your hand and touches your heart

dave

I hear what your saying i have a ex girlfriend i cant seem to get over either.It wrecked my new mar, between that and the booze.SO good luck and let me know how it goes i could you the advise too...

Magichappens

Hi Marka,
Have you attended any Al-Anon meetings? Picked up any literature? Obsessive thinking isn't just an alcoholic trait. Alcoholics were my addiction. I needed to recover from that as much as an alcoholic needs to recover from their disease. When I had exhausted every form of self will, I got willing to work the 12 steps in my life. What a miracle.

There is a forum for friends and families of alcoholics. There are a lot of people dealing with the same issues as you are. It's definitely worth a browse. Hugs, Magic

Stephanie

Hi Marka

The more you stay sober the more a healthy woman will be more appealing to you. I've always heard it said that we are attracted to like individuals. The healthier you get the more you will realize that your ex is part of a past that you don't wish to ever return to. Also Magic has a good point, when a love is obsessive it's not really love it's part of our addiction and it can be treated just the same.

Time2Surrender

Hi Marka,welcome to SoberRecovery.You can meet a lotta people here going through the same thing.And you will also find plenty of support around here.