he has to go but how

Old 01-29-2005, 04:18 PM
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he has to go but how

we moved to a new state 1 year ago, and we have no one here. everything was going well. then he started drinking. now all he wants to do is drink. we have 2 small kids. i don't work now. i had to stop because he was home with the kids and drinking. he would leave them home to go get a beer. he is out of control and i have to get him away. the bad thing is we live in my house. and i need to get him out so that we can have a life. how do i start. no money, no help with my kids, what to do.
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Old 01-29-2005, 06:16 PM
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I just read your other post too. So sorry to hear of this problem. Call your local police dept and ask them what the steps are to have him evicted. Try to keep track of all these incidents, dates of leaving the kids alone - a judge will have a HUGE problem with that one. Any other things that you can think of... I would start a list. I would also call the courthouse and find out about how to get legal aid and explain why.

Again, so sorry you are going through this. Can you find an Alanon group or some of the bigger churches have support groups for families in crisis.

Try to take one day at a time and do what you can do in 24 hours. You have been in this relationship a long time, you can't get out of it in overnight. Peace peace peace to you and your little ones.

Take care.
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Old 01-29-2005, 08:52 PM
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There are also groups in most communities to help abused or battered women and
children. If he is leaving your kids home alone you certainly qualify. The police dept.
or a local church should be able to point you in the right direction. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You need help and there is nothing wrong with that. It isn't about you
it's about him. Please take care.--Prayers--Dee
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Old 01-29-2005, 09:02 PM
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Hi XZ:

I've just recently checked into this myself. I've asked my AB to leave on numerous occasions, and he refuses. So, I called the sheriff 's office and asked how to evict him from my home. They said since he's not my husband and I own the house, he's basically a renter. So you need to follow the letter of the law to ensure that your A doesn't turn around and sue you for damages.

So, here's what you need to do (at least in Virginia). You need to send him a certified letter stating that he has 30 days to vacate the premises. If he doesn't leave within that time, then you call the sheriff (or police) and inform them of the situation, show them a copy of the certified letter, and they will escort him out of your home.

The law may be different in California, so check with your local sheriff/police department for specific instructions. Hugs to you. Better days lie ahead.
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