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01-09-2005, 07:01 AM

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jsweeter

Movin on

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Join Date: Jan 2005

Location: Jermyn, Pa

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Still learning about myself

I have been in Al Anon for a year now. I have a husband who is addicted to everything (cigarettes, oxy, beer, gambling, etc) and a recovering daughter. The daughter is okay, she works hard and has some self esteem issues but the husband is in complete denial. Of course, "it's not him, it's me. I just want things my way and he never gets what he wants." I have been reading these boards so I know that you all know what I mean. He lies about drinking, hides it, justifies it, blah, blah, blah. I read the posts by Doug about enabling him and I have done all of the above...yelling, crying, confronting, ignoring...but then I decided that the most peaceful solution was to just leave him to his love...addiction! We have been separated for almost 9 months and just when I think that this is easy, somethin somes up that shows me why I did this again. I am very grateful for all of the people that I have met in Al Anon and I hope that these boards are as comforting. I look forward to getiing to know all of you.

01-09-2005, 07:13 AM

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hope2bhappy

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Join Date: Oct 2004

Location: Dixie

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Welcome to the board. You will find much comfort here.

01-09-2005, 09:22 AM

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MysticCat

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Join Date: Dec 2004

Location: Astral Plane

Posts: 64

Welcome to SR. The people here are awesome!

01-09-2005, 09:32 AM

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Mich

Finding Strength

Join Date: Dec 2003

Location: Boston , MA

Posts: 91

Welcome to SR...You are not alone

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Michelle

01-09-2005, 11:28 AM

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Bobb B.

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Join Date: Jan 2005

Location: Lafayette Louisiana

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sweeter, please keep telling your story. over and over and over. there are so many that need to hear it. and i know it helps you to tell it. real 12th Step work.