Keep fighting for yourself
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Keep fighting for yourself
Someone else posted their journey to happiness and it inspired me to share my own.
I joined this forum in 2017. I was 28, newly married, and miserable. It was the lowest point of my life-- I can't even read my old posts, it feels like a different lifetime. Somehow, through the help of this wonderful community and friends/family, I gathered the courage to finally leave. It was the hardest thing I've ever done in my entire life. I lived on my best friend's couch for a month and had $50 in my bank account. I had no furniture and got almost nothing from my ex. I moved into my own apartment shortly after and experienced living alone for the first time ever. It was scary, and then it was liberating. I remember one evening sitting down alone in my cute living room, with things I'd bought all on my own, eating a meal I had made, watching what I wanted on the TV, and feeling this quiet moment of pride and contentment.
This April marks two years since I walked away from that relationship. This past January marks one year since our divorce was finalized. I bought a new car, the nicest one I've ever owned. I started grad school last year...I have a 4.0 and am two semesters away from obtaining my master's in my field. I'll finally be making a generous salary. I lost 30lbs and am in the greatest shape of my life. Sometimes I look in the mirror and am like 'wow, who is that babe?'...kidding
. But really, I feel the happiest and most fulfilled I have in years. All my friends and family have told me I glow now, that they've watched me blossom without this heavy weight of my ex and his alcoholism dragging me down.
Best of all? I am a few months into the healthiest relationship of my life with an amazing partner.
This life was worth all the pain, struggle, and heartache I went through to get here. I didn't think I could do it, but I did. You can too. It's brighter on the other side, I promise.
Edit: Should also add I've been NC with my ex for over a year. Highly recommend.
I joined this forum in 2017. I was 28, newly married, and miserable. It was the lowest point of my life-- I can't even read my old posts, it feels like a different lifetime. Somehow, through the help of this wonderful community and friends/family, I gathered the courage to finally leave. It was the hardest thing I've ever done in my entire life. I lived on my best friend's couch for a month and had $50 in my bank account. I had no furniture and got almost nothing from my ex. I moved into my own apartment shortly after and experienced living alone for the first time ever. It was scary, and then it was liberating. I remember one evening sitting down alone in my cute living room, with things I'd bought all on my own, eating a meal I had made, watching what I wanted on the TV, and feeling this quiet moment of pride and contentment.
This April marks two years since I walked away from that relationship. This past January marks one year since our divorce was finalized. I bought a new car, the nicest one I've ever owned. I started grad school last year...I have a 4.0 and am two semesters away from obtaining my master's in my field. I'll finally be making a generous salary. I lost 30lbs and am in the greatest shape of my life. Sometimes I look in the mirror and am like 'wow, who is that babe?'...kidding
. But really, I feel the happiest and most fulfilled I have in years. All my friends and family have told me I glow now, that they've watched me blossom without this heavy weight of my ex and his alcoholism dragging me down.Best of all? I am a few months into the healthiest relationship of my life with an amazing partner.
This life was worth all the pain, struggle, and heartache I went through to get here. I didn't think I could do it, but I did. You can too. It's brighter on the other side, I promise.
Edit: Should also add I've been NC with my ex for over a year. Highly recommend.
Last edited by emmab219; 04-03-2021 at 12:50 PM. Reason: Extra info
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