SaveYourHeart

I wanted to thank y'all. My divorce was finalized around Christmas time last year and I've grown so much since then. He still reaches out, he still threatens me, but I have learned not to live my life in fear of him.

I have a beautiful life now. I bought my first house and am (unexpectedly) buying another due to work promoting me and moving me to the other side of the state. I surprised myself by being financially independent of him, even though he had me convinced I wouldn't be able to survive without him. Everything changed when I made the decision to leave. I gave myself the opportunity to grow and love and learn.

I still struggle sometimes with codependent thoughts, but that will be something I will continue to work on the rest of my life.

But I just wanted to say hi and thank you to all of those who supported me and gave me little doses of reality when I was lost in a world of make believe. You truly made a difference in my life.

trailmix

Hi SYH! So glad you posted an update.

Your life sounds great and congratulations on your new homes! That's a great achievement, as well as your promotion at work.

It's funny, I've read here a few times that many didn't realize the financial burden that would actually be lifted by not living with an alcoholic. Of course your progress goes well beyond that even.

I hope you will stick around and keep posting, you have so much experience to share.

Bekindalways

Ah SYH, great to hear from you and even better to hear how well you are doing.

MyGirlGracie

Wow, SYH... thank you so much for the update and congratulations on all of your "growth" since last posting! Your positivity is absolutely infectious!