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Old 09-24-2020, 04:20 AM
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100 Days

Today is day 100 off the booze. I’m looking forward to hitting 118 here in a few weeks which was the longest sober streak in my adult life. Physically I feel good. The exuberance of being sober has kind of worn off. The thought of never drinking again in a world full of drinkers still makes me feel uneasy at times but life is better than it was. It’s different. Much different. I’m still getting use to it and trying to be comfortable in my own skin. My therapist recommended a 12 step program and a fella in AA offered to be my sponsor. I may take him up on that. Anyway, thanks for listening. I’ll keep coming back!
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If you can do 100, you can stay sober for as long as you want. My first thought is you have done the hard part, but then I catch myself. You have broken the vicious circle of physical addiction, but you now have to deal with mental addiction. This is no small thing. Here is where you must learn to recognize the mind games, fantasies, and denial of who you are (an alcoholic). The first hundred days you focused on bulling your way through the cravings. It's no small feat, but now you must process information accurately and develop self understanding and commitment, and this is not easy for most of us.

I have found that never drinking again in a world full of drinkers not to be a problem. Don't stay attached to the status quo. The status quo is just what people do and think as a group. It has nothing to do with what is best for the individual. Be a rebel and don't drink, and learn to be proud of yourself for it. Even some full time drunks will admire you for that. I can't remember anyone ever belittling me for being sober and not taking a drunk. I'm sure it happens, but I haven't experienced it personally.
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Congrats on 100 days!
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I felt like I was lacking something for a long time. It would come and go but it keeps getting better and better still. I don't feel like I am lacking something now but brief thoughts or memories flash in sometimes but are quickly dissolved by my automatic tape player that reminds me what my life was really like before I came to SR!
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Congrats on 100 days.
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Old 09-24-2020, 05:41 AM
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Congratulations on 100 days!
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Old 09-24-2020, 06:47 AM
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Great job Fishing dude!!
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Old 09-24-2020, 06:59 AM
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Hey FishingDude!

Congrats on reaching 100, man.

I reached that milestone myself recently and then drank twice, but I've been sober since (18 days).

The longest sober streak I've had in my adult life isn't much longer than yours (around four months), and I totally get the 'come down' from the initial sober wave.

So how's life different for you now?
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Old 09-24-2020, 07:33 AM
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Congratulations on 100 days.

I would also recommend giving AA a try, and having a potential sponsor already lined up is a huge plus. When I was first trying to get sober I ended up going to AA (after years of resisting) and was glad I did. I met some great people and the fellowship of others was very helpful. I've been sober over a decade now and haven't gone to AA in years, but I would go back in a heartbeat if I felt like I was going to drink.
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Old 09-24-2020, 08:41 AM
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AA is a great recovery program and enables a social life on non-drinkers to be built up which is fantastic in the early days of recovery.
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Old 09-24-2020, 10:39 AM
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Congrats on the 100 days, that is awesome!

It certainly wouldn't be a bad idea to check out AA. It is not like you have to sign on the bottom line. When I buy a new to me car, I always take it for a test drive to see if it is a fit for me. AA might interest you. It might not.

For me, the twelve steps of AA are a big part of why I am not only sober, but also comfortable in my own skin.

Either way, just keep moving forward because life gets better when we do!

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Well done. Keep on making those milestones.
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Old 09-24-2020, 06:30 PM
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I very much appreciate everyone’s advice and encouragement. Thank you much!
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Old 09-24-2020, 06:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Resurgence View Post
Hey FishingDude!

Congrats on reaching 100, man.

I reached that milestone myself recently and then drank twice, but I've been sober since (18 days).

The longest sober streak I've had in my adult life isn't much longer than yours (around four months), and I totally get the 'come down' from the initial sober wave.

So how's life different for you now?
I really don’t have much contact with any of my Old friends (drinking buddies). For the last 100 days I’ve been Going to work and then going to meetings. It really feels like I’m starting life all over again. Everything is extremely uncomfortable but I think it’s getting better!
I’m trying to figure out what things and activities I enjoy doing and how to fill my free time. My sober socializing skills could use some work but I’m getting there!
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Congrats on 100 days FishingDude

The journeys not over - you'll continue to grow and, I hope, continue to feel more and more comfortable with being sober.

Balance is key - Work and AA meetings are important but work on that free time thing a little too.

You can do this

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One hundred days sober is great, FishingDude!

When I first got sober I couldn't imagine never drinking again. But I grew and changed and now I can't imagine drinking again.

The best advice I ever got about recovery was when I was just about where you're at now, around three months sober, and I wasn't "feeling it". I was told to practice gratitude every day. At first it was hard as I was in early recovery and wasn't feeling that great, still depressed and feeling lost. But I did it anyway, and I found that the more things I noticed/was grateful for, the more things there were to notice and be grateful for.

It makes me happier too. Give it a try. We even have a Gratitude Forum, where you can post on any number of threads, or start your own.

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/22/o...pier.html?_r=0
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Nice work, 'Dude. Thumbs up!
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Congrats on 100!
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Well done, that's brilliant!
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