Tempted
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Tempted
Went to AYCE KBB today. Wife and me were celebrating our Bdays. Bday equals fun, but also trigger for my addict mind.
Long story short, there sits a shot of Soju in front of me. Wife says, go ahead honey have a little taste.
She might as well have been the most of evil ones at that moment.
For a split second I considered it. Then I said my usual. It's poison, I hate the stuff. Drink it up if you want to honey, it is not my thing anymore.
My buddy smiled at me. I don't care why he was smiling. Didn't matter to me.
I don't drink. I hate the stuff. It is poison.
Thanks SR.
Long story short, there sits a shot of Soju in front of me. Wife says, go ahead honey have a little taste.
She might as well have been the most of evil ones at that moment.
For a split second I considered it. Then I said my usual. It's poison, I hate the stuff. Drink it up if you want to honey, it is not my thing anymore.
My buddy smiled at me. I don't care why he was smiling. Didn't matter to me.
I don't drink. I hate the stuff. It is poison.
Thanks SR.
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Originally Posted by D122y 
Long story short, there sits a shot of Soju in front of me. Wife says, go ahead honey have a little taste.
That doesn't seem like a very nice or thoughtful thing to say - even if she was just kidding. She must not know how uncomfortable triggers can be or how hard they can be to ignore.
I'm glad you said no.
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Yeah look at it like drano or acid.
End of July I convinced my self I needed to go to my club and have a couple after 30 days on the wagon. To see my buddies etc.
Started ok but ended with me drinking 500ml of vodka 3 weeks later. Acted like a moron and had to start all over again.
End of July I convinced my self I needed to go to my club and have a couple after 30 days on the wagon. To see my buddies etc.
Started ok but ended with me drinking 500ml of vodka 3 weeks later. Acted like a moron and had to start all over again.
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"Long story short, there sits a shot of Soju in front of me.
Wife says, go ahead honey have a little taste."
First,
...!!!! 
Next, why would she do that to you?
Where is the respect folks should have for one another
in a marriage? Does she not respect or support you in
achieving continued recovery and sobriety?
Is love respecting one another thru all the vows we
took when we got married?
In my first marriage of 25 yrs. married in 82 and entered
recovery in 1990. I was the one in the marriage with the
addiction to alcohol. Husband not. However, it was him
and his family who placed me into the hands of those
capable to teaching me about my addiction and recovery.
I took that gift and used it to my advantage to remain
sober continuously for 30 yrs now.
Even tho i was the one in recovery, i surrounded myself
with others like me for many yrs in meetings. My family
aware of my struggles, never truly understood addiction
because none of them had it. However they knew working
my program was top priority if i wanted to remain part
of the family.
Sure, my husband and I had trying times together, but the
respect for my recovery was in place. We went out to eat
and there was no need to order alcohol and there was no
alcohol in our house either.
Why would she tell you to have a drink, is what disturbs me.
Does she like you more drunk than sober?
Does she not know how being sober means more to
you and the family?
Alcohol destroys and splits families in half. Alcohol
doesnt care who it affects. It just does what it always
and never changes.
There were times further down the road in our failing
marriage that i actually insisted to my spouse to have
a drink himself. But, even then, he would not do that
to me out of respect, care and support for my own
continued recovery progress.
I know we cant control what other folks do, think or
say. Still, within a marriage esp. if the love is still there
for one another, that they respect each others boundaries.
For me, i wouldnt be able to go out to eat with another
who enjoys drinking alcohol in front of me. Mainly because
alcohol affects even the ones without an addiction problem.
I couldnt talk to someone under the influence of a toxic
substance affecting everything inside them. We would
both be like 2 magnets not being able to connect.
If you hold two magnets the wrong way around, they
push apart - they repel!
It’s only when you hold unlike-poles together that magnets
stick together they are attracted.
Wife says, go ahead honey have a little taste."
First,
...!!!! Next, why would she do that to you?
Where is the respect folks should have for one another
in a marriage? Does she not respect or support you in
achieving continued recovery and sobriety?
Is love respecting one another thru all the vows we
took when we got married?
In my first marriage of 25 yrs. married in 82 and entered
recovery in 1990. I was the one in the marriage with the
addiction to alcohol. Husband not. However, it was him
and his family who placed me into the hands of those
capable to teaching me about my addiction and recovery.
I took that gift and used it to my advantage to remain
sober continuously for 30 yrs now.
Even tho i was the one in recovery, i surrounded myself
with others like me for many yrs in meetings. My family
aware of my struggles, never truly understood addiction
because none of them had it. However they knew working
my program was top priority if i wanted to remain part
of the family.
Sure, my husband and I had trying times together, but the
respect for my recovery was in place. We went out to eat
and there was no need to order alcohol and there was no
alcohol in our house either.
Why would she tell you to have a drink, is what disturbs me.
Does she like you more drunk than sober?
Does she not know how being sober means more to
you and the family?
Alcohol destroys and splits families in half. Alcohol
doesnt care who it affects. It just does what it always
and never changes.
There were times further down the road in our failing
marriage that i actually insisted to my spouse to have
a drink himself. But, even then, he would not do that
to me out of respect, care and support for my own
continued recovery progress.
I know we cant control what other folks do, think or
say. Still, within a marriage esp. if the love is still there
for one another, that they respect each others boundaries.
For me, i wouldnt be able to go out to eat with another
who enjoys drinking alcohol in front of me. Mainly because
alcohol affects even the ones without an addiction problem.
I couldnt talk to someone under the influence of a toxic
substance affecting everything inside them. We would
both be like 2 magnets not being able to connect.
If you hold two magnets the wrong way around, they
push apart - they repel!
It’s only when you hold unlike-poles together that magnets
stick together they are attracted.
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Happy Birthday D122y
My family continued to offer me drinks and say that same kind of stuff for years after I had told them I was an alcoholic and had quit drinking, they were clueless.
Good decision, and you didn't ruin your birthday.
My family continued to offer me drinks and say that same kind of stuff for years after I had told them I was an alcoholic and had quit drinking, they were clueless.
Good decision, and you didn't ruin your birthday.
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