Cando

I have been reading your posts and find them very comforting and informative. Both my parents were alchoholics. My brother and sister are alcoholics. I chose not to drink, know if I did I would be an alcoholic. Because I made this choice I take a beating from the drinkers in my family. They band together and tend to leave me out. My sister has a lot of hostility and anger towards me. She says it's because she is younger than I am and my father kept telling her how good I was in school in an attempt to get her to settle down and study. She was always a partier. She says this made her hate me. I was already out on my own when this occured and was unaware this was happening. We have discussed this and I have tried to let her know I love her and that I am not smarter than she is. She still remains in that role. I have grown very tired of the family games and their disdain toward me. I recently pulled out. I know I can't change them and I no longer want to be around the hostility. I let my sister know I love her, but I can't live with the hostility. I told her that I need a break from it. I just don't want to deal with alcoholics anymore. I have many hobbies and would prefer to spend my holidays and whatever time I have left with sober people.

Gabe

Hey Cando,
Welcome to Sober Recovery.
Sounds like being the only sober one in the bunch is making you feel like an outcast.
It also sounds like you have a good handle on taking care of yourself and making sure that you are in a healthy environment.
Good for you.
Glad you dropped in, stick around.
Gabe

Cando

Thank you, Gabe. It is freeing to know I don't have to take abuse.

Dee at Mt Bully

Hi Cando--It's hard to grow up in an acoholic family and fond some safe solid ground
for yourself. Sounds like you are off to a good start. Personnally I think A's feel safer
in numbers and akward around someone who does'nt want to join them. Maybe some
where in thier alcoholic haze they know they are destroying thier lives or maybe seeing
a sober person threatens thier constant state of denial. Whatever the reason don't
let yourself get caught up in thier sickness. You can choose your friends but not your
family. Around here we refer to the friends we choose as our family. Welcome!
Smiles--Dee

Cando

Thank you Dee. You used the same words I told them. I told them I needed to be in a safe atmosphere. I do think my sobriety is a threat to them.

JT

Cando...how old are you?? You sound young... it is so hard to tell online. I can't see the worry lines in your face. I mean...are you in school? Can you leave? Do you live with them?

Hugs,
JT

Cando

No I don't live with them. I have been on my own for years.

smoke gets in my eyes

Cando... you have a great attitude. I know the situation is heartbreaking just the same. I'm glad you found us.

Welcoming Hugs!
Smoke

Cando

Thank you, Smoke. I am happy I found you all also.