Trying to Focus on Positive
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Trying to Focus on Positive
Today is supposed to be a super happy day for me. I was asked to come in for a meeting with a company I interviewed for them to present me with a job opportunity. I've been so excited about this since I heard about it Friday because it's been so hard to find a job and it's a job that is not in the bar industry which I've been trying to leave. I just got an email though that my landlords have decided to put the house I live in up for sale. I absolutely love my apartment. I always said if this ever happened I'd look to relocate back to where I am from as it's cheaper to live there. Now, on the day of my hopeful new job in the expensive city, my home may be sold and I may have to move... just sucks, I feel crushed. My meeting is in a couple hours and I'm trying to just stay focused on that happiness but this news really sucks and ruined my day
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Everything happens for a reason. Trust that you have what it takes to work this out, because you do! If you can work though all of this sober, you'll be so much stronger for it. I would look at this situation as a "test of my resolve". Also, with sobriety you'll have the clarity you need to make the right decisions.
Now go kill it at the meeting!
Now go kill it at the meeting!
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What the hell do I know anyway?
One timeI got a job as an executive chef for a hotel. I totally reworked all the menus for all the venues. Trained the staff in the production of those menus. Did TV spots for the hotel. Won a professional cooking competition for the hotel. Newspaper food critic who said he would never ever review the hotel again, but who knew of me from previous establishments he had reviewed, was convinced to come in and wound up giving us a great review. I was let go at six months in a supposed economic move in which they decided to eliminate my position. Basically I had been used and abused. They had no intentions of retaining me once I had accomplished what they wanted.
I thought that losing my job was the absolute worst thing that could ever happen, but...what the hell do I know anyway?...a couple of months later I was working in the Caribbean, which had been a long time dream of mine. When I was a drunk, I spent a lot of time on bar stools dreaming of moving to the Caribbean, but I never got off of the bar stool to actually do it. In recovery and after the worst possible news that sucked and ruined my day, I found myself in paradise! What the hell do I know anyway?
In recovery, I have learned it is alright to make plans...as long as I don't plan outcomes. I try to stay out of my way as much as possible.
One timeI got a job as an executive chef for a hotel. I totally reworked all the menus for all the venues. Trained the staff in the production of those menus. Did TV spots for the hotel. Won a professional cooking competition for the hotel. Newspaper food critic who said he would never ever review the hotel again, but who knew of me from previous establishments he had reviewed, was convinced to come in and wound up giving us a great review. I was let go at six months in a supposed economic move in which they decided to eliminate my position. Basically I had been used and abused. They had no intentions of retaining me once I had accomplished what they wanted.
I thought that losing my job was the absolute worst thing that could ever happen, but...what the hell do I know anyway?...a couple of months later I was working in the Caribbean, which had been a long time dream of mine. When I was a drunk, I spent a lot of time on bar stools dreaming of moving to the Caribbean, but I never got off of the bar stool to actually do it. In recovery and after the worst possible news that sucked and ruined my day, I found myself in paradise! What the hell do I know anyway?
In recovery, I have learned it is alright to make plans...as long as I don't plan outcomes. I try to stay out of my way as much as possible.
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Originally Posted by copperfield 
My meeting is in a couple hours and I'm trying to just stay focused on that happiness but this news really sucks and ruined my day
Why does one situation have to affect the other? Your job interview is still a happy thing for you. Allow it to stay that way.
Why can't you accept the job offer, if it comes, and then find a new rental near your new job?
It seems to me like you're creating your ruined day by a rigidity that you're forcing on yourself and in your life.
Attitude is everything.
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Thank you everyone. And Yes Lumen - that is said right! I'm not gonna let it ruin my day. I can't do anything about it right now. But I can go and listen to a job offer. That is huge. Thank you for your perspective.
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I completely agree that everything happens for a reason. Things are changing for the better and being forced to move, when you look back, will also be for the better. I had to move out of a house I really liked and it ended up being the start of my new life. you never know.
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In 2000 my place was sold. I found a new place and learned to love that.
In 2007 my place was sold. I found a new place and learned to love that.
In 2014 my place was sold. I found a new place and learned to love that.
you’ll find another place you love
good luck on the interview Copperfield!
In 2007 my place was sold. I found a new place and learned to love that.
In 2014 my place was sold. I found a new place and learned to love that.
you’ll find another place you love
good luck on the interview Copperfield!
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Thank you to everyone who brought me back to reality, off my ruined day horse, and made me appreciate what is actually real today which is the job offer I just accepted!!! Yes it is the most important piece that I needed in my life. The apartment will be dealt with when the next step needs to be dealt with, for now I have a home, an amazing cat, and A NEW JOB!
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Congratulations on the new job copperfield! Allow yourself some time to feel good about your new job. Obviously your housing situation will need to be addressed down the line but try not to let it detract from your good news.
Congratulations on the new job copperfield! Allow yourself some time to feel good about your new job. Obviously your housing situation will need to be addressed down the line but try not to let it detract from your good news.
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