Please leave
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Please leave
If I had one wish it would be people, please leave and go make your life and stop leaching off others. If you have a feeling about a drunk person and have the need to get online and share details then I wish we never knew you.
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Hi Fronting
This is the Friends and Family forum., man.
Judging by your posts earlier today you're speaking to the alcoholic in the relationship and not the Friends and Family members..
I just wanted to make that clear for everyone before someone here misunderstands you.
If you're drinking and need help why not start another thread in the Alcoholism or Newcomers forum or let me know and I'll move this one for you?
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This is the Friends and Family forum., man.
Judging by your posts earlier today you're speaking to the alcoholic in the relationship and not the Friends and Family members..
I just wanted to make that clear for everyone before someone here misunderstands you.
If you're drinking and need help why not start another thread in the Alcoholism or Newcomers forum or let me know and I'll move this one for you?
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Join Date: Dec 2008
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Hello Fronting,
I'm not clear who you believe should leave by what you have posted, but I can tell you that addiction and codependency are often two sides of the same coin. Those who suffer with addiction often struggle for years and years before finally beating it. Those who love someone who is addicted often stay with them for years and years because they fear what will happen to them if they leave.
Would that life were that cut-and-dry, but it most definitely is not sometimes. Human emotions are complicated, and I can only hope that ultimately, we can do what is best for ourselves and others. I hope that we can offer each other the grace of simply being--human.
What that doesn't mean is that we are required to stick around while we are being manipulated, abused--while our lives are miserable.
I hope that this community at SR can help you find the support and solutions you seek in your life!
I'm not clear who you believe should leave by what you have posted, but I can tell you that addiction and codependency are often two sides of the same coin. Those who suffer with addiction often struggle for years and years before finally beating it. Those who love someone who is addicted often stay with them for years and years because they fear what will happen to them if they leave.
Would that life were that cut-and-dry, but it most definitely is not sometimes. Human emotions are complicated, and I can only hope that ultimately, we can do what is best for ourselves and others. I hope that we can offer each other the grace of simply being--human.
What that doesn't mean is that we are required to stick around while we are being manipulated, abused--while our lives are miserable.
I hope that this community at SR can help you find the support and solutions you seek in your life!
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Join Date: Jan 2018
Posts: 500
Guess I am confused by Fronting's post. In my life I have found great support, understanding, and loads of wisdom by reading the experiences of the members here. I am always happy to share my own experience if it will help someone. Living with and loving an alcoholic is the loneliest I have ever been in my life and in my experience no one quite understands like those who have experienced it. I hope you find the support you are looking for wherever that may be. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
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