You’re not like other people...
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You’re not like other people...
In your reaction to alcohol. So don’t compare yourself to them. If you’re an alcoholic drinking alcohol will always lead to loss of control of the amount consumed and a loss of control
therefore over your behaviour.
Grateful to be sober 🙏
therefore over your behaviour.
Grateful to be sober 🙏
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You don't know how many of those people have issues with alcohol and are not doing anything to address their problem. I read somewhere that eighty something percent of people with issues with alcohol will never attempt to remedy the situation.
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Some long term problematic drinkers do actually learn to have an occasional drink. And everyone’s drinking pattern is different, what may cause problems and distress to some may not to others. Everyone is different and has their own problems. Can’t really say that we are not like other people... I feel like I fit in with the rest of the world just fine
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Originally Posted by Buttery 
Some long term problematic drinkers do actually learn to have an occasional drink. And everyone’s drinking pattern is different, what may cause problems and distress to some may not to others. Everyone is different and has their own problems. Can’t really say that we are not like other people... I feel like I fit in with the rest of the world just fine
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Originally Posted by Buttery
Some long term problematic drinkers do actually learn to have an occasional drink. And everyone’s drinking pattern is different, what may cause problems and distress to some may not to others. Everyone is different and has their own problems. Can’t really say that we are not like other people... I feel like I fit in with the rest of the world just fine
Definitely not my experience.
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I have tried to become an occasional drinker for as long as I have known I was a 'problematic' drinker. I have failed dozens of times, both with alcohol and with cigarettes. The approach does not work for me; I would not be in this forum otherwise.
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Originally Posted by Andante
Sounds like you're saying that "addiction" is a myth, that "alcoholics" just need to learn how to have an occasional drink, that this site doesn't really need to exist because the problem, if it exists at all, is merely about adjusting one's "drinking patterns?"
Definitely not my experience.
Definitely not my experience.
all I was pointing out is that everyone is different. I have met a recovery worker in the past who had been sober for a very long time and was open about how he learned to manage just an occasional drink. There is actually a lot of evidence that shows that addiction isn’t always a life long problem, but depends on the person. I personally don’t want to find out if I would ever handle that one drink or not though.
im not saying it’s for everyone, but as mentioned above problematic drinking is different for everyone. I actually took offence reading the original post stating that we are not like everyone else... I know lots of people who have problems, just because their problems don’t involve alcohol doesn’t mean we are not all human and deserve to be part of normal society.
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To me the first post reads like - don't waste time wishing you were like normal drinkers because you're not.
If you drink like me, our relationship with alcohol is not a take it or leave it kind of one
That sounds very simple - but it's not.
It took me decades to accept that.
I was drinking all day everyday and still was looking for the thing that would 'turn me normal'
I was never going to be the guy who grew out of 'problematic drinking' and drank normally.
Id be surprised if any of those kind of drinkers would spend much time on a site like SR?
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If you drink like me, our relationship with alcohol is not a take it or leave it kind of one
That sounds very simple - but it's not.
It took me decades to accept that.
I was drinking all day everyday and still was looking for the thing that would 'turn me normal'
I was never going to be the guy who grew out of 'problematic drinking' and drank normally.
Id be surprised if any of those kind of drinkers would spend much time on a site like SR?
D
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Originally Posted by Dee74
To me the first post reads like - don't waste time wishing you were like normal drinkers because you're not.
If you drink like me, our relationship with alcohol is not a take it or leave it kind of one
That sounds very simple - but it's not.
It took me decades to accept that.
I was drinking all day everyday and still was looking for the thing that would 'turn me normal'
I was never going to be the guy who grew out of 'problematic drinking' and drank normally.
Id be surprised if any of those kind of drinkers would spend much time on a site like SR?
D
If you drink like me, our relationship with alcohol is not a take it or leave it kind of one
That sounds very simple - but it's not.
It took me decades to accept that.
I was drinking all day everyday and still was looking for the thing that would 'turn me normal'
I was never going to be the guy who grew out of 'problematic drinking' and drank normally.
Id be surprised if any of those kind of drinkers would spend much time on a site like SR?
D
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Originally Posted by Dee74
To me the first post reads like - don't waste time wishing you were like normal drinkers because you're not.
If you drink like me, our relationship with alcohol is not a take it or leave it kind of one
That sounds very simple - but it's not.
It took me decades to accept that.
I was drinking all day everyday and still was looking for the thing that would 'turn me normal'
I was never going to be the guy who grew out of 'problematic drinking' and drank normally.
Id be surprised if any of those kind of drinkers would spend much time on a site like SR?
D
If you drink like me, our relationship with alcohol is not a take it or leave it kind of one
That sounds very simple - but it's not.
It took me decades to accept that.
I was drinking all day everyday and still was looking for the thing that would 'turn me normal'
I was never going to be the guy who grew out of 'problematic drinking' and drank normally.
Id be surprised if any of those kind of drinkers would spend much time on a site like SR?
D
I personally don’t need to find out. Happy as i am. Was just sharing an opinion and some experience from meeting others. I really don’t feel like we are all the same, what works for some does not work for others. If it did no one would relapse from this.
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