Don’t know what to do
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Don’t know what to do
So I am at a loss. I don’t know what to do. My son stayed with my AH husband the past couple days. If you go back and read my prior post my daughter wouldn’t go. He acted crazy. Anyways. I was supposed to get my son this morning. My husband called and asked if my daughter could come and spend some time with him. He was very calm. She said she wanted to go she just wanted me to get her in the morning. So we go up there and he comes out without my son and said that I could get my daughter back when I brought my son back. He said to her she is gonna stay for a few days. And she flipped out. Said she wasn’t going. I said don’t do this. I will get her in the morning. And he refused to let my son come to my car. Wouldn’t let him even get close to me. And said if I didn’t comply with what he wanted I couldn’t have my son back. And we don’t have court until June 4th. I called the sherriffs department. They won’t do anything unless we have papers. Wouldn’t even come up there. I called and talked to the magistrate. They won’t do anything. Nothing. Other than they said I need to get my son and then get a restraining order against him. Well that would be great. If I could get my son. My son is terrified of him. So he wouldn’t do anything defiant to him. I have cried all day. I hate him so bad. And I have no idea what to do. I’m so pissed. Because I have went by the book and tried so hard to be on my best behavior. Don’t rock the boat. And he is such a jerk. He said he’s filed for full custody. I laughed at him. Who the hell would give him custody. Really??? Does anyone have any advice on what to do??
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You can call a domestic violence help line and they will walk you through the steps required, as well as knowing the best legal help. Do you have some support like friends or family you can call on right now?
This is beyond serious, and you can't handle it on your own. Sorry you're in this position.
This is beyond serious, and you can't handle it on your own. Sorry you're in this position.
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Originally Posted by FeelingGreat 
You can call a domestic violence help line and they will walk you through the steps required, as well as knowing the best legal help. Do you have some support like friends or family you can call on right now?
This is beyond serious, and you can't handle it on your own. Sorry you're in this position.
This is beyond serious, and you can't handle it on your own. Sorry you're in this position.
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KC, what a horrible situation. I would call your attorney first thing in the morning and get legal advice. I can't believe the sheriff won't do anything! I'm so sorry, I'd be losing my mind if someone threatened to take my kid from me. ((hugs))
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kc......Perhaps, this doesn't need to be said (again)...but, continue to keep a journal to record all these kinds of interactions.....especially, dates, times, and details.
Also, make a police report....
I am not a lawyer, of course....but, I remember hearing that. in court..."He with the most paper, wins"...…
I agree, that consulting with your lawyer is the best thing....and, if you don't have a sympathetic lawyer....you can get a recommendation from your local domestic violence organization.
Also, make a police report....
I am not a lawyer, of course....but, I remember hearing that. in court..."He with the most paper, wins"...…
I agree, that consulting with your lawyer is the best thing....and, if you don't have a sympathetic lawyer....you can get a recommendation from your local domestic violence organization.
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Well I called my lawyer he’s in court today. So I haven’t heard back yet. I went to the court house. They can’t do anything. But I did ask if he had filed papers yet and he has. He filed custody and divorce papers. The custody papers are crazy. I am again in complete shock. He has filed for full custody. Stating I pay him child support and that I pay his attorney fees. His reasoning is I am verbally abusive and I belittle him in front of our children. Even after he pleas with me not to argue in front of the kids. Oh my gosh!!! Who the hell is he. I can’t believe any of this. This stuff he said in those papers are absolutely ridiculous. My heart is again broken all over again. I again don’t even know what to do.
one good thing. I found a house to rent!!!
one good thing. I found a house to rent!!!
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Originally Posted by Nd819
KC, any update?
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Thinking of you KC. You're doing fine, just holding a steady course, one step at a time.
People who are unreasonable in divorce negotiations often just shoot themselves in the foot. I agree with Dandy, just do the reasonable think and let him expend his energy uselessly.
People who are unreasonable in divorce negotiations often just shoot themselves in the foot. I agree with Dandy, just do the reasonable think and let him expend his energy uselessly.
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