BEELS

courage2

Hey BEELS

What's going on?

Dee74

Welcome aboard Beels

feel free to start your own thread if you like - you'll get more responses that way

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TiredCarpenter

Hi BEELS;
Your post here means that you have—- the desire to stop drinking.
That is all that any of us started with when seeking sobriety.
(or do you have several days sober?) Can’t tell from your post.

It’s good to hear from you.
There are a lot of good, kind, folk here at SR.
We look forward to hearing more from you.

Best of luck to you.

BEELS

D122y

The chemically altered version of me was in a death spiral.

I had to put on my big boy pants and suffer.

I used God, sr, sweets, exercise, binge watching tv, various herbal teas, youtube meditation videos etc etc.

Suffering and time.

I was lucky because I had mental and physical symptoms that scared the heck out of me.

I used/use that to get/stay sober.

Drinking was a learned behavior. It has been unlearned.

I am a born again non drinker.

Thanks.

Obladi

I'm glad you're here, Beels. That self-recognition can be really tough, but it's a tremendous step in the right direction.

In my experience, doing the right things brings peace and calm into my life. I hope you have stopped drinking now. It's hard as hell, I know. But continuing to drink is much harder.

xo
O

BEELS

aasharon90

You've reached out to us here in SR for help and
we hear you and we are here to help you learn more
about addiction and how it has affected you and
those around you BEEL.

As long as you have this poisonous toxic substance
running rapid thru you mind and body, understanding
anything clearly and affectively wont happen.

Once this toxic stuff begins to leave your/our bodies
then we first have to deal with the results of yrs of
drinking abuse we have done to it. For so long we have/
had this addiction, this craving, this reliance on it to
make it thru everything we did in life.

Now that the dependency on this poison is stripped
away from us, we are left with the damages done to
our hearts, minds, bodies and all those affected by it.

This process wont be easy at first and it wont be quick.

For all the yrs of abuse by our addiction then it will
take time to learn how to correct that damage. Slowly
but surely you can turn around this addiction to being
healthy, happy and honest in your life for yrs to come.

There are many who have used different ways to kick
their addictions with some restarting a few or so times
until it finally began to stick and become successful in
their own quest to live a sober life.

I began my recovery journey 29 yrs ago when my
family stepped in with concern about my health and
placed me into the hands of those capable of teaching
me about my addiction and hand me the gift of a
recovery program to incorporate in all areas of my
life one day at a time to achieve many of lifes amazing
rewards.

With a 28 day rehab stay and a 6 week outpatient
aftercare program, I began my journey to listening,
learning, absorbing and applying this knowledge
and recovery tools in all my affairs.

From that first day sober, I have continuously incorporated
this knowledge passed on to me each day to achieve success
in my own life.

Staying connected to my recovery lifelines allows me
to pass on this knowledge to others still struggling with
addiction looking for help and guidance and letting each
person know that there is hope, in achieving success in
living a sober life each day for years moving forward.

Take a deep breath and begin today building a strong
solid recovery foundation to live upon reversing the
damages done my your addiction.

Follow the process and make your amends accordingly
and not so quickly as it can hurt or harm others.

Support, care and understanding sent your way.

Obladi

There are loads of online meetings! Try checking the AA website for your region, go to intherooms, and if you like, send me a PM so I can get more specific.

Reid82

Stick close to the forums for support and like a few have said maybe check out a couple of online meetings?

thomas11

Welcome BEEL, the lock down has many of us on edge. Your decision to quit drinking is a good one. Stay close to this site, post often if necessary.

Steely

Good you came here BEELS. There has been an increase in domestic violence since the lockdowns. Many mistakes made in these situations. Really good you stopped.

Try think of something interesting to do with your wife and kids. Everyone's trying to work out ways.

anxiousrock

Thank you for coming here! Day one is the toughest (for me, anyways)...so you're making it through and there's so much support here.

crown86

Beels,

Man do I know where your at was there 16 days ago. I said something has got to freaking give. The guilt and shame from my behaviour was un********bearable. I wanted to come out of my own skin. Why it hit me so hard this time I really don't know. But I thought who and what in the hell have I become.

I said to myself it's time for change. The first 5 days were pretty brutal. The guilt and BIZZARE anxiety were soul crushing. I am keeping a journal everyday on a phone app so when things get better I can refer back as to what a nightmare this has been.

Im not going to tell you after 16 days I feel 100%, I don't. However I feel MILES away from the first 5 days and believe this is possible. My adavantage is I have 2 close friends I used to drink with that quit. One sober like 15 years the other over 2. I knew these guys well when drinking and know them well sober. I have admired the crap out of them in the last few years even though I was drinking.

They hang out, fish with me etc. They always seem happy as ****. My one buddy with little over two years helped me on some home improvement projects before xmas and at end of day I am crushing beers and asked him don't you miss beer? He said not one bit. He said see your going to get all torn up and sleep like **** and maybe fight with your girl tonight. Me I am going home eating a great meal and sleep like a baby and wake up feeling good. You ha I will have to kick you out of bed in am and you will feel like crap and be nailing beers in the am to "level off".

They both have told me the same thing in different words. Give it time. You will get the point life is so much easier sober and you will have an incredible time in life being sober - way more fun than being drunk all the time.

I have been hanging on to the saying one day at a time. I know it sounds trite and elementary but for me as I look at it that way it makes so much easier than saying I am quitting forever. I plan on hanging in there till I am at what my buddies have told me. Hell, If it not what they say I can always go back to drinking but this time I am going to hang out sober till I get their point.

Beels - if my sorry drunk ass can get started at this so can you.

Steely

Congratulations BEELS. It really is so much better.

Hevyn

I hope your Day one is going ok, Beels. You're bound to feel anxious & disoriented - but it will all get better. I think you realize drinking did nothing to help the situation & just added more misery. It was very hard for me to admit it wasn't an escape & did nothing but cause more problems to deal with.
Glad you are here - I hope you'll stay with us & keep posting. We care about you.

BEELS

courage2

This is so great! Remember this -- if you're at all like me, your comfort zone has been dominated by alcohol. Getting outside it is what it's all about. For yourself and so that your family can maybe feel comfortable with you again. AA and SR both helped me a huge amount.

I was incredibly anxious for the first several days, and then very anxious for more.... and now I live with a low, natural anxiety level without a drink It can be done and it's ***so*** much better sober

Go BEELS!

least

Welcome to the family. Getting sober is the best thing I've ever done for myself.

The first week or so can be rough, but stick with it as it does get better.