Hi y’all, I hope everyone is doing good. How is everyone doing under “lockdown”? I’ve been trying to keep busy around the house. My days are filled with helping my kids with homework and doing my own homework. I also decided to spruce up my house a bit my changing all the door knobs to match. Amazon has been my best friend lately : )

Yesterday after I made my kids breakfast, I received a Snapchat notification from a male “friend” of mine. It was a video of my AXH and his GF at Walmart shopping. My first thought was why is he sending me this? Second, I couldn’t help but feel angry. I have not heard from him in about a month. He has not at all checked on the kids during this pandemic. I sent him an email (I have blocked him from my phone, we are now only communicating through email) stating it was best that the kids stay home during this pandemic since they both have asthma. I’ve been supervising visits since public places and businesses are closed there are little options and overall it is best to keep them home. He never emailed me back. My older son’s phone remains on. He has not contacted him. I haven’t received any child support in about a month now. He got a new job in February. He didn’t want to tell me where so I won’t have child support withdrawn from his check. His GF hasn’t came around my house ever since the “lockdown” was ordered in California. It took for that to be set in place for her to stop coming around. My AXH is definitely a lost man. My overall thought about the video is pity for him. My children deserve a better father. It’s been peaceful for the last month. My kids and I are healthy and safe. Im thankful. Im feeling a type of way about the person that sent me the video. He has sent me a picture of my ex-husband driving down the rode while he was out on a run. I’m confused on why he keeps sending me pics and videos of him. I feel like I need to ask this person to stop sending me anything regarding him. Anything regarding my ex is very sensitive subject for me. I just don’t want to seem rude about it when I address it. The intentions of my AXH are very clear. Now I’m trying to figure out the intentions of my friend. Do you think I am wrong for feeling a certain type of way?

Thank you Dandylion. I do still feel like I’m in bad dream. I never thought he would stoop as low as he has. However, the thing I dread is when he does try to come around he often uses that opportunity to abuse me verbally. If he would refrain from blaming me for all of his mishaps then I wouldn’t really have an opinion about him or whatever he is doing. He likes to play the victim all the time and paint me out to be the big bad wolf when in fact I have been the only stable parent my kids have.

I certainly wouldn’t do that to one of my friends. It just disturbs my peace when he does this. I am at home minding my own business then I see something that is not my business. I don’t really care to be involved in what he does when my kids aren’t around him.

I definitely am going to have to have a conversation about this.

I’m trying to not let it ruin our friendship. I just am hesitant on opening up Snapchat’s from him now haha

I feel like if I explain to him my feelings I think he would understand and stop. I have no desire to get any information about my ex when my children aren’t with him. If my children are with them and he doing something that is violating our court order and/or putting them endanger would be a different thing.