Anna

During these times when we are sheltering at home, domestic violence situations are especially tricky. And, in fact, some people are forced to shelter at home with their abuser. Following is info from the National Domestic Violence Hotline (US.):

"You are not trapped just because of #Coronavirus.

When survivors are forced to stay in the home or in proximity to their abuser, it can create circumstances where their safety is compromised and they need to alter their safety plan.

For victims and survivors we are here for you 24/7. In an emergency, please call 911. Also check with DV/IPV shelters in your area for assistance.

For anyone affected by abuse or violence please call 1-800-799-7233 or log onto thehotline.org or text LOVEIS 22522. You are not alone."

For more contact info worldwide, refer to our Sticky:

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-violence.html

suki44883

Thank you, Anna. I copied and pasted this on my FB timeline.

Dee74

Thanks for sharing this Anna.

This is advice for Australians in a DV situation
https://www.lifeline.org.au/get-help...amily-violence

UK
https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic...ow-to-get-help

NZ
https://www.govt.nz/browse/law-crime...mily-violence/
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Steely

Thank you Anna.

I live alone with only myself to beat up.

I make myself see the positives out of this terrible experience, but am always reminded of the many women and children locked up with their abusers. It would be terrible.

Maybe when this thing is over these women will realise their power and leave the a/hole in their wake.

There will be an end to this. Start your life again.

Dee74

Men can suffer this too Steely - and it brings its own set of problems telling anyone about it or seeking about it.

I was a victim of DV too, back in the day.

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Steely

I'm aware of all of that Dee. I'm sorry you were also a victim....survivor.

All too conscious of the problems associated with the telling of the abuse, and the need for support and protection when the telling begins.

It's not a competition, but woman experience dv much more than men. Not just physically, but economically, and they've got kids in tow. Domestic violence increases when the woman is pregnant.

I'm just sending good vibes to anyone who is stuck in an abusive relationship (women mainly) and hope they are all able to extricate themselves with the support they so sorely need.

And to thank Anna for posting the contacts.

Delilah1

My husband was talking to a sheriff about robbery at work the other day, and the sheriff shared that most crime was way down, but DV is way up. I was in an abusive relationship right after college, I was actually engaged, I’m grateful I found the strength to get out, but many feel trapped, especially since they’ve often separated themselves from friends and family.

Steely

You are an inspiration Delilah.

Reid82

Yes, I read somewhere (It was either Britain or France) that domestic violence has gone up something like 20% in the last few weeks

Spacegoat

I heard this week that the courts, while closed to the public, are still taking DV cases.

It was good to hear. I have experience also of this.


Plenty in fact. Far too much.

Surrendered19

The courts in my state are still processing all reports of crimes, although court dates are bumped WAY out. Domestic violence is up at scary levels of increase here. The perfect storm of social factors. Looking way back at my childhood abusers, what is happening now would have sent them into frenzied rage.

Spacegoat

A lifetime of experience here, including upto recently.

https://www2.hse.ie/wellbeing/mental...and-abuse.html

Thanks for the reminder - some people never change.

entropy1964

Thank you for posting that Anna

As a single, widowed woman 'this' didn't even occur to me, selfish as I am. My gosh, yet another awful aspect of 'this' whole situation. I can't imagine.

I have never suffered domestic violence, unless you consider being molested as a child DV. I was assaulted as an adult and all I can say is, well, I can't say anything actually. I cannot imagine living in a home, as an adult, being abused. But I hope anyone in this situation will not hesitate to ask for help. They need and deserve it.

My heart goes out to those suffering.

ulfr

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans* (LGBT) Domestic Violence Helpline uk

10am - 8pm Monday
10am - 5pm​ Tuesday
10am - 5pm Wednesday
10am - 8pm​ Thursday
1pm - 5pm Friday
1pm-5pm Tuesday is a trans specific service

0800 999 5428
https://www.brokenrainbow.org.uk/help/helpline/

HeadEast

The Salt Lake City Police Department here where I live is reporting a significant increase in DV incidents. My son, a former Sheriffs Deputy, made a post on Facebook offering shelter at his house to anyone that needed it. Kinda proud of him.

Thanks for sharing that, Anna.