Codependent73

We were together for 2.5 yrs. He has totally shut me out, no contact for almost 3 weeks. He has been clean for a year, no therapy or meetings on methadone. Said he needs to be alone. Anyone have any experience or can relate to what is going on in his head. Thank you.

FeelingGreat

Who knows? But you would think relapse could be a possibility.

All you can do is respect his wishes. Best case scenario, he is concentrating on his recover. I'm sure more will be revealed.

As hurt as you feel, use this time to work on yourself. There is more to life than concentrating on him and his problems.

HeadEast

FeelingGreat is right. When he says he wants to be alone what he is really saying is that he wants to be away from you. This indeed hurts. I wish you the best.

helpfultoothers

I feel your pain. I've been there where the addict pulls away and says they want to work on their recovery, and you feel abandoned. It really sucks.

trailmix

Actually he may just want to be alone - alone. Nothing to do with you in particular. It's so hard to say with so little information.

Relationships take time and consideration and looking out for others, he may not be ready for that yet,

He could be struggling with depression, he might of relapsed, impossible to know.

zoso77

What's going on in his head doesn't matter. What's going on in yours does.

We don't have any control over what other people do or think. It's a hard lesson to learn and absorb, but it's a crucial one and one that provides an opportunity for us to be well. Work on you. Whatever form that takes is entirely up to you.