Father in ICU
Coloradokid
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Join Date: Feb 2020
Location: Denver, CO
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Father in ICU
Hi everyone,
im new to this forum and hope this is a good place to start. Last Sunday I took my father into the ICU for liver failure (jaundiced, bloated, mental confusion). He has been an alcoholic for 30 years and a drug addict for 30 years.
A small backstory, he was in the ER a month ago to get help and they gave him fluids and kicked him to the curb. No help whatsoever. (He went to get medical clearance to go to rehab).
I am only 20 years old and am really struggling with this. Even through years of torment, love, and him being in rehab, this is the most sick he has been. He currently is in liver failure, and they are suspecting kidney and lung failure. He has pneumonia as well, which he got from aspirating stomach acid into his lungs.
Has anyone had any positive outcomes if in similar situations either with yourself or loved ones?
I really need prayers and positive thoughts for my dad. I am sorry if this post is not in the right thread, although I do feel I need any support I can get right now.
im new to this forum and hope this is a good place to start. Last Sunday I took my father into the ICU for liver failure (jaundiced, bloated, mental confusion). He has been an alcoholic for 30 years and a drug addict for 30 years.
A small backstory, he was in the ER a month ago to get help and they gave him fluids and kicked him to the curb. No help whatsoever. (He went to get medical clearance to go to rehab).
I am only 20 years old and am really struggling with this. Even through years of torment, love, and him being in rehab, this is the most sick he has been. He currently is in liver failure, and they are suspecting kidney and lung failure. He has pneumonia as well, which he got from aspirating stomach acid into his lungs.
Has anyone had any positive outcomes if in similar situations either with yourself or loved ones?
I really need prayers and positive thoughts for my dad. I am sorry if this post is not in the right thread, although I do feel I need any support I can get right now.
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Welcome, and you are more than welcome to post here. 
I'm very sorry for your situation with your father. Have you spoken with his doctor about his outlook? I hope that you find some peace.
I'm very sorry for your situation with your father. Have you spoken with his doctor about his outlook? I hope that you find some peace.
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Welcome to SR Coloradokid. I'm really sorry you are having to go through this. As Anna said in the previous post it is only really the doctor or doctors treating your father that can give you a meaningful prognosis as they are the only ones with both the facts and the training. You are a close enough relation for them to be able to do that (I would think) Don't forget to look after yourself too during this situation. I hope you get some help and information from somewhere. Good luck.
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Sorry to hear about your father Coloradokid and hope he gets better.
I understand as I as well have a close family member in ICU right now with what could be alcohol related. It's a bacterial infection in the blood.
My prayers are with you and your father.
I understand as I as well have a close family member in ICU right now with what could be alcohol related. It's a bacterial infection in the blood.
My prayers are with you and your father.
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I'm sorry that your dad is so ill Coloradokid, and sorry you are having to bear this weight at only 20 years of age. The doctors will give you prognosis, but he does sound very ill. I hope you have family to support you.
The "Family and Friends Forum" here, would be an excellent place for you to head. Lots of support from people who have experienced similar. Post here though, you matter.
Let the doctors do their job, you cannot change what is happening, only how you deal with it. Keep coming back to get the support you need at this time Colorado, people really do care.
The "Family and Friends Forum" here, would be an excellent place for you to head. Lots of support from people who have experienced similar. Post here though, you matter.
Let the doctors do their job, you cannot change what is happening, only how you deal with it. Keep coming back to get the support you need at this time Colorado, people really do care.
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Originally Posted by Coloradokid 
A small backstory, he was in the ER a month ago to get help and they gave him fluids and kicked him to the curb. No help whatsoever. (He went to get medical clearance to go to rehab).
Did they tell you why?
Coloradokid
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Join Date: Feb 2020
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Thank you
Thank you everyone for your kind words. As of now I keep getting different responses as to his prognosis. One doctor says a few days and another says it could be a year or so. Right now it’s a minute by minute kind of case.
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My support and prayers to you and your dad. I suggest you speak to someone- like a counsellor? You may find the hospital has a social worker- or someone to help the relatives of patients.
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