Don’t Quit this Weekend - Weekenders 21 - 24 February 2020
Magsie
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Don’t Quit this Weekend - Weekenders 21 - 24 February 2020
to the Weekenders I found with experience that quitting being sober can be so easier than staying sober.....but only to appease the AV(Addictive Voice).
Thing is....the voice gets louder..it doesn’t appease people like myself, who is never satisfied with just one drink.
I was thinking this weekend...
Let’s not quit.
Let’s not give up on ourselves.
Let’s keep going on this sober road
It leads to great things.
I found this poem inspiring...I hope the same for you.....
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes.
(Psst. We’re not just here to talk about the good stuff, if you’re struggling.....shout out).
(We’re here all week too!)
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Thanks Mags.
As ever great OP.
Really appreciate your efforts here.
Sincere thanks.
Manta I echo what D said.
I've been there 100 times, sobertime then relapse. Although I never got 18 months. Never. I'm hoping the changes I'm putting in place this time will permit that.
Do you need to change your professional environment again maybe... ?
Howdy, Dee & weekenders
As ever great OP.
Really appreciate your efforts here.
Sincere thanks.
Manta I echo what D said.
I've been there 100 times, sobertime then relapse. Although I never got 18 months. Never. I'm hoping the changes I'm putting in place this time will permit that.
Do you need to change your professional environment again maybe... ?
Howdy, Dee & weekenders
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Thanks Mags
Manta and V-man, I was feeling the same as you and continually relapsing last year in large part to making poor choices in a toxic, somewhat hostile work environment. I’m also just plain burned out. Just over seven months ago, I knew I had to change something so I threw everything I had at staying sober and enacting an exit plan.
Last week I announced in our admin meeting that I was retiring next June or Aug.
It felt very strange and a little scary to make it public, but I can’t tell you the sense of relief I feel dropping the rope.
Sobriety has to come first. I was talking the talk but living in financial fear. Been working hard to get money ducks in a row because I don’t want to die from this addiction, and I have few, if any, relapses left in me.
I have 43 actual work weeks left, but who’s counting?
Manta, please do what you need to do to get your life back.
Manta and V-man, I was feeling the same as you and continually relapsing last year in large part to making poor choices in a toxic, somewhat hostile work environment. I’m also just plain burned out. Just over seven months ago, I knew I had to change something so I threw everything I had at staying sober and enacting an exit plan.
Last week I announced in our admin meeting that I was retiring next June or Aug.
It felt very strange and a little scary to make it public, but I can’t tell you the sense of relief I feel dropping the rope.
Sobriety has to come first. I was talking the talk but living in financial fear. Been working hard to get money ducks in a row because I don’t want to die from this addiction, and I have few, if any, relapses left in me.
I have 43 actual work weeks left, but who’s counting?
Manta, please do what you need to do to get your life back.
Giving up is NOT an option.
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Manta -
I don't really have advice that no one else has already given, but I'm sending big hugs. Perhaps a change of employment is what's needed to break you out of this cycle, but in the end the real change needs to come from inside you. I know you can do this.
I don't really have advice that no one else has already given, but I'm sending big hugs. Perhaps a change of employment is what's needed to break you out of this cycle, but in the end the real change needs to come from inside you. I know you can do this.
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Originally Posted by MantaLady 
As eluded to in my post to Vman...relapsed again on Tuesday. I have decided that I can’t really call it a relapse anymore as it’s happened too regularly in a short space of time. The days or week between drinks is not sobriety, it’s just a few drink free days till the next drink so I consider it as I am actively in addiction right now. It sucks.
Anyhow, hope everyone is doing well and take care xx
Anyhow, hope everyone is doing well and take care xx
Originally Posted by Mags1
MantaLady, I think you’re very brave to come here and talk about your relapse.
Environments affect us, I’m sure of it.
Being in a place that doesn’t feel right can’t help.
Is there any way you can change your place of work?
I know jobs don’t come easy nowadays but I remember you saying you taught scuba diving...is that something you could pursue again or am I talking out of my hat.
Environments affect us, I’m sure of it.
Being in a place that doesn’t feel right can’t help.
Is there any way you can change your place of work?
I know jobs don’t come easy nowadays but I remember you saying you taught scuba diving...is that something you could pursue again or am I talking out of my hat.
Originally Posted by Dee74
Hi Manta - sorry to read you post in the other thread.
What are you going to do to get back on the right road?
can we help?
D
What are you going to do to get back on the right road?
can we help?
D
sFrom what you said, it sounds like the cravings are getting to you....I went through a long period of getting sober for two or three days and then going crazy with the cravings. I just had no tools, no way of dealing with the AV screaming at me.
So I went back to my Big Book. And other recovery literature.
It really helped me....maybe you could even start doing meetings again?
(Sorry if you are already).
Getting past three days sober is doable, and then it's 5 days, then a week, then you are back on solid ground....that's how I feel, anyway.
So much love.
s ❤️❤️
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Hawkeye,
I retired July 2018 and I don't miss it one bit.
I loved my job but despised the place I worked for if that makes sense.
Anyway, I couldn't make it more than a day sober when I worked there. 31years. 😳
My plan was to quit drinking on my 50th bday which fell a month before my official retirement date.
Didn't happen. The transition was a little different than I pictured it.
I was a little overwhelmed with all the freedom I had and kept drinking as a coping mechanism because thats what I do.
Fast forward a year and a half later and I'm finally comfortable with my situation.
I will say it is much easier staying sober now that I am away from that place.
Good luck in your new life. You have a head start beginning it sober.
I hope to spend the rest of my years enjoying the fruits of my labor and not wasting away in a beer can.
I retired July 2018 and I don't miss it one bit.
I loved my job but despised the place I worked for if that makes sense.
Anyway, I couldn't make it more than a day sober when I worked there. 31years. 😳
My plan was to quit drinking on my 50th bday which fell a month before my official retirement date.
Didn't happen. The transition was a little different than I pictured it.
I was a little overwhelmed with all the freedom I had and kept drinking as a coping mechanism because thats what I do.
Fast forward a year and a half later and I'm finally comfortable with my situation.
I will say it is much easier staying sober now that I am away from that place.
Good luck in your new life. You have a head start beginning it sober.
I hope to spend the rest of my years enjoying the fruits of my labor and not wasting away in a beer can.
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Another fine OP Mags, thanks. It is spot on, I had more relapses than I could count, in fact rather like MantaLady alluded to I could not even call many of them relapses as they were only a couple of days booze free. The thing is eventually I got my mindset in the right place and it stuck, or at least it has so far.
Sending positive vibes MantaLady, I am not sure if I would advise changing jobs, maybe just how you react to the bs that one inevitably finds in the workplace. If someone else did your job they would doubtless be on the receiving end of the same rubbish. Some people are just a pain in the you know what.
I have a sort of long weekend to look forward to. I am going in first thing but spending a chunk of the day at the London Classic Car Show at Olympia.
Another fine OP Mags, thanks. It is spot on, I had more relapses than I could count, in fact rather like MantaLady alluded to I could not even call many of them relapses as they were only a couple of days booze free. The thing is eventually I got my mindset in the right place and it stuck, or at least it has so far.
Sending positive vibes MantaLady, I am not sure if I would advise changing jobs, maybe just how you react to the bs that one inevitably finds in the workplace. If someone else did your job they would doubtless be on the receiving end of the same rubbish. Some people are just a pain in the you know what.
I have a sort of long weekend to look forward to. I am going in first thing but spending a chunk of the day at the London Classic Car Show at Olympia.
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Good morning/evening, all.
Great OP, Mags. Thank you!
MesaMan, hope MesaDog heals well and quickly.
(((MantaLady))). Stay close to us. Shore up the holes in your Sober Plan and move forward into lasting sobriety. Let sobriety’s goodness seep unto your core.
Vman, work environments (as fishkiller and HawkEye alluded) can be so stressful and toxic. All that stress and toxicology can certainly be triggering. I loved my job but I don’t miss it one bit. Hope you find the work-free existence a good one. Any plans for your new-found freedom? HawkEye?
Sao, I love Classic Car Shows. Enjoy!
MLD, Dee, Delilah, MidnightBlue, Suze, fishkiller, CityBoy
The sunset last evening was glorious. We stuck around for stargazing and we’re not disappointed. We even saw shooting stars and a couple of satellites. Orion’s Belt was the most prominent of the constellations. Venus was so bright that it cast a pathway glow on the water. A great evening.
On a very sad note, a friend is gravely ill and likely dying - a smoker who quit too late (and, I believe one of us), heart and lungs are failing, sepsis, also. Family has arrived from out of town and are the only ones allowed in ICU. I fear our last visit was truly the last. Prayers would be appreciated.
Great OP, Mags. Thank you!
MesaMan, hope MesaDog heals well and quickly.
(((MantaLady))). Stay close to us. Shore up the holes in your Sober Plan and move forward into lasting sobriety. Let sobriety’s goodness seep unto your core.
Vman, work environments (as fishkiller and HawkEye alluded) can be so stressful and toxic. All that stress and toxicology can certainly be triggering. I loved my job but I don’t miss it one bit. Hope you find the work-free existence a good one. Any plans for your new-found freedom? HawkEye?
Sao, I love Classic Car Shows. Enjoy!
MLD, Dee, Delilah, MidnightBlue, Suze, fishkiller, CityBoyThe sunset last evening was glorious. We stuck around for stargazing and we’re not disappointed. We even saw shooting stars and a couple of satellites. Orion’s Belt was the most prominent of the constellations. Venus was so bright that it cast a pathway glow on the water. A great evening.
On a very sad note, a friend is gravely ill and likely dying - a smoker who quit too late (and, I believe one of us), heart and lungs are failing, sepsis, also. Family has arrived from out of town and are the only ones allowed in ICU. I fear our last visit was truly the last. Prayers would be appreciated.
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