Nursey2680

Dee74

I'm sorry for what brings you here Nursey but I know you'll find support here.

I don't know if it normal but its a situation I read of here a lot - active addicts pushing loved ones away.

Maybe its guilt or self hatred...or maybe it's an excuse to drug a little more - but anything is possible.

I'm not dissing your bf - I don't know him and I don't know what the motivation is specifically with him pushing you away - but he's an ill man right now.

Whoever taught him or you that relapse is part of recovery did neither of you a favour.

Relapse is part of addiction, not recovery.

I understand you want to stand by him, but while your bf is in active addiction, the come here go away dynamic is probably going to be the norm?

You are neither hopeless or unworthy of love..but the road ahead looks rocky unless and until he decides to quit for good.

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Anna

Welcome,

Relapse is not part of recovery.

Relapse is part of addiction.

I'm not sure why your boyfriend pushes you away, but I imagine that he is dealing with helping himself recover. Have you considered AlAnon as a support for yourself? I hope that you find some peace.

fini

hello Nursey,

farther down the forum lists are forums for friends and family of substance abusers/addicts.
i will bet you will find some good support from folks who are or have been in your shoes.

FeelingGreat

Hi Nursery, you will find people who know what you're going through in the Friends and Family of Substance Abusers section of these Forums. Go to the Stickies at the top of the forum and have a read, also look around the threads. You will learn that you are not alone.

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...tance-abusers/

Steely

Couldn't agree more with Dee and Anna, Nursey2680.

Relapse happens, but it's not part of recovery. Polar opposites.

If he tells you it's part of recovery he's giving himself the biggest 'out' ever. Recovery, means recovery.

Good idea to check out Family & Friends, here, but seriously Nursey I wouldn't be waiting forever. You can only take so much.

You deserve better.

least

If he is pushing you away, I would take the hint and stay away for a while. Let him reap what he's sown. I hope you can find some peace of mind on your own.

I am also in favor of support. AlAnon is great for in person support, and the friends and family forums are very helpful too.

freedomfries

Relapse is not a part of recovert and you shouldn't have to feel hopeless. I'd give him an ultimatum. If he uses again, the relationship is over.

HeadEast

"Of course we all know part of recovery is relapse." No. Nope. Not at all. Relapse is not, nor will it ever be, part of recovery.

Reid82

Sounds like a hard situation, especially with someone you love. You'll find good support here and no, relapses like the others have said doesn't have to be part of recovery.