Oh he almost had me!
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Oh he almost had me!
Yesterday was a decent day. He was so nice to me. He came home and acted so normal. I almost slipped and thought wow. I really love this. Then I went to the store and came home. Haha. How dumb of me to think that.
fast forward to this beautiful Saturday morning. As of now. I am getting ready for my daughters basketball game. And here he is at 8:30 in the morning tipsy. I’m just disgusted. I knew this would happened. It happens every weekend. Just for some reason I always think maybe this one will be different
anyways. My friend is supposed to call me today about the rentals. My mom has me some tubs to pack my stuff. So the plan is a little at a time. I’m gonna start getting my stuff out and put it in her basement. And if the rental works I’m gonna go there. And if not I’ll go my my parents. No one knows but my mom as of right now. I have started telling some of my friends what he is doing. Which has really helped me. Because they don’t just think I’m trying to not talk to them or do things with them. They get it now.
Now off to the game. Lovely.
fast forward to this beautiful Saturday morning. As of now. I am getting ready for my daughters basketball game. And here he is at 8:30 in the morning tipsy. I’m just disgusted. I knew this would happened. It happens every weekend. Just for some reason I always think maybe this one will be different
anyways. My friend is supposed to call me today about the rentals. My mom has me some tubs to pack my stuff. So the plan is a little at a time. I’m gonna start getting my stuff out and put it in her basement. And if the rental works I’m gonna go there. And if not I’ll go my my parents. No one knows but my mom as of right now. I have started telling some of my friends what he is doing. Which has really helped me. Because they don’t just think I’m trying to not talk to them or do things with them. They get it now.
Now off to the game. Lovely.
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clowery…...I think that for those of us who are so desperate to hold on to the relationship and so fearful of rocking the boat...and so fearful of what the future may hold...that, any little change in behavior, is, for us, is like a sweet rush of nectar to our system!
We so want him to be different than he is, that this sweet nectar completely overrides and floods our brain with a cascade of feel good-neurotransmitters.....and, just obliterates any other thoughts....
lol...when he is "good" it is almost like a hit of heroine to us.....
We so want him to be different than he is, that this sweet nectar completely overrides and floods our brain with a cascade of feel good-neurotransmitters.....and, just obliterates any other thoughts....
lol...when he is "good" it is almost like a hit of heroine to us.....
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I’m sorry this happened but at least you were only back in it for a few hours, not a few more months or years. Reach out to your friends and this. I have started to tell more people and it has helped. For what it’s worth, I’m proud of you! We learn from every experience and grow stronger and wiser. You learned from yesterday!
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Originally Posted by dandylion 
lol...when he is "good" it is almost like a hit of heroine to us.....
Don't mean to make this about Dandylion, I just used your comment to jump off with my own thoughts.
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Originally Posted by clowery0508
Just for some reason I always think maybe this one will be different
Hope: That’s a very hard feeling to stop giving in to. When dealing with an alcoholic S/O hope is no longer an option. We can only rely on facts and actions. It takes some of us longer to see this then others. It took me a very long time. Scary long! We don’t want to “see” what is staring us right in the face. This is our REALITY. We must face it if we want a better/happier life for ourselves and children.
You are putting one foot in front of the other, baby steps. Proud of you
Are you able to get to any al Anon meetings?
I feel like you would benefit from f 2 f
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Oh the he was nice to me routine. I remember it well. How sick is that? We have to make comment that they are being nice? As opposed to what, abuse? In my experience, 20 years with an A, the “nice” is because they are drinking and don’t want any confrontation about it. If I’m nice to you, why are you being mad? It’s like beating a whipped puppy, except the puppy is a monster, that is deceiving you. I wish you all the best judgement in the world.
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