Day 3- a hard one
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Day 3- a hard one
Received some upsetting news today that's thrown me into the "let's drink it away" mindset. Trying to understand the chain of thought processes that generally send me to the bottle. Especially don't want to hit that auto pilot stage where I'll drink even though I know I don't want to.
I have a plan to keep busy this evening preparing for tomorrow, I just don't want to cave....
I have a plan to keep busy this evening preparing for tomorrow, I just don't want to cave....
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I'm also sorry you got some upsetting news.
And I echo, it's nothing drinking will make better. In fact, it could lead to something much worse if you take that first drink.
Yes, stick around here or go to an AA meeting, if you're so inclined. Anything but drink.
We're all with you.
And I echo, it's nothing drinking will make better. In fact, it could lead to something much worse if you take that first drink.
Yes, stick around here or go to an AA meeting, if you're so inclined. Anything but drink.
We're all with you.
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Any idea we get that a drink is going to be enjoyable or beneficial in some way is an illusion.
If at all, if not just completely a feeling of misery and failure from the pop of the first bottle, any serenity from drinking is not going to last long.
This place we dream of drinking taking us doesn't exist. Not for any sustainable period of time. It can be a really sad realization but its neccessary.
If at all, if not just completely a feeling of misery and failure from the pop of the first bottle, any serenity from drinking is not going to last long.
This place we dream of drinking taking us doesn't exist. Not for any sustainable period of time. It can be a really sad realization but its neccessary.
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Yep, yep, yep to all of you. Of course you are right and I much appreciate the push and support. I'm going to make it, at least through this night because of your words. My own words are not enough at this point. I really do need this interaction. Jammies on and I've eaten, so I will not go out tonight. Im disappointed with myself for not reaching for help sooner, but as there is no changing the past, I just be grateful I finally have. One small, but enlightening victory!!
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"Trying to understand the chain of thought processes that generally send me to the bottle"
For me, it was everything. Seriously, everything. It's raining today would do just fine, or it's a nice day out, that would work too.
"Especially don't want to hit that auto pilot stage where I'll drink even though I know I don't want to."
I did it for many, many years. I think it's just because you get to the point where you're miserable if you don't drink, so you drink, then the next day, you do that again. It's a bad cycle.
But you will get past it. It seems like you won't at the time, but you will and you'll be thankful that you stayed the course.
For me, it was everything. Seriously, everything. It's raining today would do just fine, or it's a nice day out, that would work too.
"Especially don't want to hit that auto pilot stage where I'll drink even though I know I don't want to."
I did it for many, many years. I think it's just because you get to the point where you're miserable if you don't drink, so you drink, then the next day, you do that again. It's a bad cycle.
But you will get past it. It seems like you won't at the time, but you will and you'll be thankful that you stayed the course.
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Don't think I've seen you here. Check in once a day. It helps me. Leaves me accountable.
Ask and ye shall receive!
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Originally Posted by Kjma 
I made it!! The first time in I dont know how long, something negative came my way and I didn't "deal" with it by drinking. I feel great this morning!
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Great job Kjma!
I've found that drinking when something stressful or bad happens is really just an excuse to drink. Because the drinking actually makes me lethargic and severely impacts my ability to deal with the stress.
There have been so many times when I drank in response to stress and then later felt totally overwhelmed... way worse than before the drinking.
I've found that drinking when something stressful or bad happens is really just an excuse to drink. Because the drinking actually makes me lethargic and severely impacts my ability to deal with the stress.
There have been so many times when I drank in response to stress and then later felt totally overwhelmed... way worse than before the drinking.
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