Feeling so lonely
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Feeling so lonely
I feel so profoundly lonely lately. I can be with people but still alone. I have 3 kids even. I know that I am mostly entirely not included in events my drinking friends do and this hurts my feelings. They know I’m not drinking, rumors of my DUI’s I’m sure circulated. I am invited to large get togethers. I am just so lonely at approx 11 months (2 days away). I feel like crying. I’ve always been very skinny too and I’ve gained weight. I attend aa regularly and have made friends. I just feel excluded and not a part of any certain group in particular anymore. I have always been an extreme extrovert and drank socially for years and years before I crossed the line and it became a real, sudden problem. I hope this feeling goes away eventually. I hope it does not persist because it’s excruciatingly painful
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I don't have any advice, but I want to givr you with a hug 
and a congrats on 11 months.
I have 4 kids so I get that it is possible to be lonely even being smothered by kids. I'm sure you will get some good advice in this thread.
and a congrats on 11 months.I have 4 kids so I get that it is possible to be lonely even being smothered by kids. I'm sure you will get some good advice in this thread.
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My loneliness was also met with sadness and isolating, not feeling part or connected to others. Prolonged sadness with me = my major depression getting bad. I see my GP every 3w now- and am on an antidepressant, which is a game changer for me.
Support to you.
Support to you.
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Hi Lost Lilly
I found I not only had to stoip drinking but I had to build a sober life for myself that I loved, Sounds like you could use some mew people in your life?
Do you have any hobbies or interests? ever thought of community volunteering?
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I found I not only had to stoip drinking but I had to build a sober life for myself that I loved, Sounds like you could use some mew people in your life?
Do you have any hobbies or interests? ever thought of community volunteering?
D
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The best advice I ever got for bolstering my sobriety was to practice gratitude every day. It changed my life for the better. Every morning when I wake up sober, I give thanks. And every night when I go to bed sober, I give thanks.
Try it! You have nothing to lose but your misery.
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/22/o...pier.html?_r=0
And congrats on 11 months sober!
It changed my life for the better. Every morning when I wake up sober, I give thanks. And every night when I go to bed sober, I give thanks. Try it!
You have nothing to lose but your misery. https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/22/o...pier.html?_r=0
And congrats on 11 months sober!
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Hi LostLilly,
I am sorry you are finding it tough right now. I hear you, it is a lot of change when we quit drinking.
One of my favourite sayings is;
"When one door closes, another one opens, but it is bloody uncomfortable in the corridor"
Remembering that I am just in the corridor helps me
I am sorry you are finding it tough right now. I hear you, it is a lot of change when we quit drinking.
One of my favourite sayings is;
"When one door closes, another one opens, but it is bloody uncomfortable in the corridor"
Remembering that I am just in the corridor helps me
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