Haven’t posted in awhile. My XAGF continues to reach out to others, hoping to get me back. But I’ve maintained NC, and have somehow moved forward slowly but steadily. Yesterday I came upon a really helpful 2017 article, “The Real Reasons Your Toxic Ex Keeps Crawling Back – According To Research.” There’s a lot of helpful info in it. Thought I’d share it here... It’s not about alcohol or alcoholics - but there’s still plenty of applicable info (re: trauma bonding, toxic narcissistic ex’s, giving an ex too many chances, returning to a toxic ex, etc). And in my case, sums up my ex! Ugh. Hope everyone’s been OK!

https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-a...g-to-research/

“Toxic ex-partners may not miss you, but they sure do miss what you provided for them.”

Hi Bekindalways - thanks. It’s been a process... a lot of doctors, tests and research. Missed herniated discs on my MRI we’re found but doesn’t explain all my neuropathy. But suffering from a very painful back doesn’t help, especially when you’re trying to better yourself after multiple surgeries and a bad relationship! Slowly climbing out of poverty level with a lot of city resources... just one step at a time.