Milestone moments
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Milestone moments
So, I did a thing yesterday. Actually a couple things for the first time, but one specifically related to my AH.
AH just had a birthday. He celebrated by taking a half day from work and coming home to drink.
Yesterday, I had plans with my friend and her kids (and my two youngest). Usually I would avoid afternoon plans because that is "his time" but this time I said yes. We stayed out later than usual...which was kind of nice...and on the way home, we got burritos and laughed as we ate them in the car. It was a really great time. (This was the little first times that were joyful)
However, before we left for our adventure, I took about 3 hours to clean my entryway and rearrange the furniture. It was looking FABULOUS and I was so happy with it. When I got home, my AH asked me why I moved things and I told him the truth. I told him that the other day he was so drunk that he kept stopping breathing. That I was afraid I would have to call paramedics and that it would be too difficult for them to come in the house and take care of him. I moved the furniture to give them access to where he sleeps but also to look functional. He was shocked. He didn't say anything but I could see the look on his face. He has stopped fighting. He has accepted our arrangement as "roommates". So for now, my furniture is still looking great and I was able to openly express my concern without being attacked or gaslit. I have no expectations, but maybe this one will make more sense to him.
Also, I hired an out of state real estate person (would rather not say which state here, just in case) to help with locating a home for me and my kids!!! We are well within our price range for several BEAUTIFUL dream homes!
AH just had a birthday. He celebrated by taking a half day from work and coming home to drink.
Yesterday, I had plans with my friend and her kids (and my two youngest). Usually I would avoid afternoon plans because that is "his time" but this time I said yes. We stayed out later than usual...which was kind of nice...and on the way home, we got burritos and laughed as we ate them in the car. It was a really great time. (This was the little first times that were joyful)
However, before we left for our adventure, I took about 3 hours to clean my entryway and rearrange the furniture. It was looking FABULOUS and I was so happy with it. When I got home, my AH asked me why I moved things and I told him the truth. I told him that the other day he was so drunk that he kept stopping breathing. That I was afraid I would have to call paramedics and that it would be too difficult for them to come in the house and take care of him. I moved the furniture to give them access to where he sleeps but also to look functional. He was shocked. He didn't say anything but I could see the look on his face. He has stopped fighting. He has accepted our arrangement as "roommates". So for now, my furniture is still looking great and I was able to openly express my concern without being attacked or gaslit. I have no expectations, but maybe this one will make more sense to him.
Also, I hired an out of state real estate person (would rather not say which state here, just in case) to help with locating a home for me and my kids!!! We are well within our price range for several BEAUTIFUL dream homes!
Last edited by oddsunflower; 10-17-2019 at 10:16 AM. Reason: addition
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The new house is so exciting oddsunflower! I'm really impatient when shopping for a house so I've never really "enjoyed" the process. I hope you do! It signals freedom for you so that's a different kettle of avocados! (I don't really like fish so I'm changing up that saying).
You sound great, you have detached and that's a real plus.
Keep doing what your doing!
You sound great, you have detached and that's a real plus.
Keep doing what your doing!
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