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Old 09-10-2019, 12:40 AM
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The idea of being sober for the rest of my life.

30 days in and today is the first time I have realistically entertained the idea of never drinking again.
untill now I have just made the decision not to drink. Anytime I thought further ahead it would become to much to think about. So I have kept it simple and just stopped thinking about it there and moved on.
I want a long life. I want to spend my money on good times with my family. I want golden memories. I want to be in control. I want to be proud of myself.
One month ago none of this was more important than keeping my blood alcohol at the right level.
I was in the grips of addiction.
The world appears very different from my current viewpoint.

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Old 09-10-2019, 01:35 AM
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It’s a tough conclusion to make at first. It took me years.

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I want a long life.
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Me too, and the thought I was potentially shortening it by decades with my excessive drinking still baffles me.
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Old 09-10-2019, 01:42 AM
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Right on Finalcall & well expressed!
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Old 09-10-2019, 02:02 AM
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I will never drink again and I will never change my mind!
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I won't drink today. Now what's that saying....
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Old 09-10-2019, 03:24 AM
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30 days is great FC. Keep going- that permanent recovery thing is definitely the way I want to be!
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Old 09-10-2019, 03:37 AM
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I want to be sober the rest of my life, too. It's so much better there is no contest.
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Forever ceased to frighten me too FinalCall - great stuff

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Old 09-10-2019, 03:41 AM
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus View Post
I will never drink again and I will never change my mind!
Not wishing to be negative, but statistics show the odds are against us there. All the more reason to not be complacent. After eight months, I can see this is going to be a lifelong battle, not quite on a daily basis anymore, but the dangers are still lurking.

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I think the earlier the necessity of life long abstinence becomes internalized, the better. Without that commitment, the door is left open for relapse.

Anyone familiar with vampire behavior, knows that if Dracula is knocking at your door, don't let him in. In theory, he could break in anyway, but those who have actually dealt with vampires know vampires can't unless they are invited. Don't throw in the towel because you you foolishly believe you are powerless and have no control at all. You are not that foolish maiden in the movie that opens the door while the audience screams, "DON'T OPEN THAT DOOR!"
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7 months ago forever made me sad and angry. I resented myself for not being normal and not getting to "enjoy" like everyone else. However, it does get better and then it gets even better. I cant even believe I know what those words mean now and that I get to live it. I'm doing things I never even thought were possible for me. I'm excited to see what tomorrow brings and I'm so much better without the wine. believe that you deserve to be happy. :-)
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Good morning . well for me I dont think about it I be about it. . live for the moment . one Day at a time. So far so good 129 days of it. ✌
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Originally Posted by Finalcall View Post
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I want a long life. ...

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Longevity is a good thing. It gives us a chance to avenge all the hideous things we did earlier.
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Anytime I thought further ahead it would become to much to think about.
This is alright. When one feels like this, it's important to accept it, and just focus on not drinking TODAY.

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So I have kept it simple and just stopped thinking about it there and moved on.
I want a long life. I want to spend my money on good times with my family. I want golden memories. I want to be in control. I want to be proud of myself.
This is fantastic. Eye are firmly on the prize. From here begins that "Life beyond your wildest dreams" you may have heard so much about.

My mistakes are usually forgetting that if you can't have fun in sobriety, it's never going to last. A great rehab counselor taught me that, and it's really been one of the key tools in my toolbox. Everyday, be sure to laugh a little, learn a little, and don't let too long a time go without carving out some time for yourself.
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Yes, there's a beautiful freedom in that realization. Hold on to it, there's so much to be gained from it.
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I was never a big thinker, figure-outer, interpreter or analyzer ...

more of a direction follower.

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Old 09-10-2019, 02:04 PM
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I only seem to think about it in terms of being very fearful that I will lose my resolve for some reason years in the future
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30 days is fabulous, Finalcall. So proud of you - and very glad you're here with us.
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It’s a great feeling when you get there. My life has been so much better sober, even when things are tough being able to deal with them with a clear mind is so much easier.

Keep up the good work, sobriety just keeps getting better.
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Old 09-10-2019, 06:07 PM
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There is a peace in that decision, Finalcall. Huge congratulations on 30 day milestone. That is epic.
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