Lonely
Lonely
New city, new job, new sobriety. I’ve chased off all of my friends and all of my women. It’s me and the dogs and a lot of loneliness. I’m sticking to faith that something will change if I stay sober but this is in no way easy and is not paying the dividends I’d hoped it would. It’s still early but I can still declare that this sucks. God please gift me some miracles.
Day 30 something.
Day 30 something.
Hey controls, where does it say I’m in AZ? Or are You a psychic? Lol and lately it’s been a wet heat here!
Hey BeABetterMan
No one would stay sober if they felt they lost out on the deal.
You will make new friends, you will get used to social socialising, the temptation will die off and all and sundry will know you and respect you as a non drinker...
It'll be ok - Congrats on 30 days
No one would stay sober if they felt they lost out on the deal.
You will make new friends, you will get used to social socialising, the temptation will die off and all and sundry will know you and respect you as a non drinker...
It'll be ok - Congrats on 30 days
Being alone for me is to fix my grudges !
It's time to meditate,visualise a new life .Retrain your mind be mindful .So it's a good time being alone to go inside you .Be your good friends and no one is needed later !@
There is google a best friend of mine !!
It's time to meditate,visualise a new life .Retrain your mind be mindful .So it's a good time being alone to go inside you .Be your good friends and no one is needed later !@
There is google a best friend of mine !!
And I am working on myself, but I was reading a book the other day and it mentioned that most humans would rather die than live a life of solitude. I know I’m not 100% isolated, but it feels damn near it. I’m coming out of a co-dependent relationship with an extremely toxic person which doesn’t help. So constant, full (albeit unhealthy) engagement and interaction to basically no interaction. It’s a stark contrast and it is taking some getting used to.
The other thing, since I’m complaining lol, is that my job is sooo boring lately. We’re low on work and the days drag on letting my mind wander into uncomfortable areas. I love the money the career provides but I haven’t been happy in this field for many years now. When my sobriety is solidified I might need to reconsider what I do for a living. I have 20 years left in the work force and I might decide to choose happiness over wealth....hmm
I use to live in North Phoenix and work near the Scottsdale airport. There seemed to be alot of activities to do out there especially if you enjoy the outdoors! Have you been to Sedona?
I also don’t drive much because my license is suspended (DUIs). So I only go to work and treatment and meetings. Sometimes I sneak up to see my kids but other than that, I’m home-bound.
Breaking up with someone isn't any easier without drinking or with drinking. You'll get through it because you have no choice; just don't drink.
I'm curious, are you allowed limited driving under the terms of your DUI, or are you supposed to be taking the Youber or something everywhere?
I'm curious, are you allowed limited driving under the terms of your DUI, or are you supposed to be taking the Youber or something everywhere?
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I’m mostly a loner so I generally don’t feel lonely but even I need company now and then and I find that’s one thing that makes me feel more vulnerable to alcohol.
I’m trying to work on that as well. The particular challenge is the few friends I do have have revolved around alcohol.
I’m trying to work on that as well. The particular challenge is the few friends I do have have revolved around alcohol.
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Wow, what adventures you are having, BetterMan!
But yeah, I can imagine that is tough, lonely and pretty sucky too. Even without the new alcohol-free life that is a lot to take on board. I read your posts on here and I know you have got this.
But yeah, I can imagine that is tough, lonely and pretty sucky too. Even without the new alcohol-free life that is a lot to take on board. I read your posts on here and I know you have got this.
Breaking up with someone isn't any easier without drinking or with drinking. You'll get through it because you have no choice; just don't drink.
I'm curious, are you allowed limited driving under the terms of your DUI, or are you supposed to be taking the Youber or something everywhere?
I'm curious, are you allowed limited driving under the terms of your DUI, or are you supposed to be taking the Youber or something everywhere?
I keep insurance, I have an ignition interlock, I have an SR22. I do everything I can to show good intent. I never drive to go on dates or go do hobbies, just the essentials. And if I get caught I will get a bunch more jail time for violating probation. What a pickle I’m in.
They joys of alcoholism. At least I’m sober today so that’s a good thing.
Thanks for listening ya’ll.
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