My ex Showed up at my house the other night at like 1:40 am drunk AF. Stumbling and not making any sense. He said he missed me then tried to take a kitten! and then was like sorry I'm bothering you I'll leave and so he left. I didn't try to stop him, but I'm so against drinking and driving! Then he was texting me until 5 am that he was sleeping in a field etc and that he would leave me alone and just saying weird stuff. He said he was hoping I’d ask him to stay and come back. I never seen him so drunk. I want to know what the hell goes through a mans head to do that kind of stuff? The hole reason we stoped dating is because of my “drinking issue” and then he shows up wasted!? I just need advice! I love him. We kind of broke it off a week ago, but I texted him Thursday asking for a fresh start and no response. He just showed up Saturday am drunk! We were together a year. I just wonder if he really misses me! I haven’t heard from him since yesterday at 5 am. Telling me he’d leave me alone and sorry for bothering me! I sent back a text saying “I really want to work on this relationship. We should be celebrating being together a year, not ignoring each other! I really want to start over with you. Make a fresh new start. I hope you want that too. Just let me know.
Ps: Hope you're ok.”
but nothing! I am not going to chase him etc but this hurts my heart! Maybe he has more of a drinking problem then I realize. He has showed up in the past drunk at my house and my work before. I just don’t understand why he isn’t responding! A few weeks ago he wanted me as a “wife”. Maybe he’s hurt? I’m hurt too but I refuse to lose my sobriety. I will never drink again! Any advice would be great! Thank you!

Dangerous situation for your sobriety. The only I advice I have is patience. I’ve been in this position many times and felt like I needed to solve it immediately. Take some time. Give him space, give yourself space. Usually if a relationship is on the rocks, it is for a reason. Time to do some reflecting.

Thanks everyone. I ended up texting him “hello” on my iPhone with some ridiculously funny slam effect that had hellos going all over the screen and “are you alive?” But I got nothing! And then sent one a few hours later that said

“Honestly, I just want to know that you are OK. You were really drunk when you showed up at my house Saturday morning. You tried to take a kitten. I am not sure if you even remember anything! I have never seen you so drunk before. You texted me that you were going to sleep in a field! I am okay with whatever happens. I understand now why this breakup happened. I am texting you because I seriously just want to know that you are ok and not in a ditch somewhere...”

I will leave it at that and give him his space. Just sad because he was literally there for me every time I needed him during my *drunk* episodes this past year...

Hi! thanks so much. I don’t even know if we officially broke up last Sunday. Lol. He came to my work last Saturday and visited. Everything was ok..he sent a text asking if it felt weird between us and I said YEP. (I had been telling him this for a week and he would always say no it doesn’t!) he then said maybe we should just be friends so I said no I care about you more than that and he said he still cares about me too, then said he was concerned about my drinking and if I’d go back etc and I told him I don’t want to go back ever. I ended up getting pissed and just said it was kinda fun while it lasted and then he said what does that mean?! I didn’t text him back till Thursday, got no response and then he showed up drunk Saturday am!

you're absolutely right tho, I don’t need this bologna in my life right now. I am in a good place and obviously he is not! I’m sure he was on a bender all week long. I can’t help him, I can only help myself, I just wanted to know if he was OK after leaving my house is all. I still hope he responds however!

And good-luck with your sobriety!