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Member
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Warwick RI
Posts: 1,276
Hi...I agree with you that some people are not helpful..although I don't think they mean actual harm...they don't realize their words are not supportive....sometimes more of a "preaching" as if they KNOW what would work for you.
THAT SAID:...I am on a ton of forums for all different reasons....
To get what I need from forums I have to ignore the comments that are not helpful for me...
But I can't categorize any site as black and white..as not helpful or really helpful...
There are people we won't get along with in every forum.
I hope you stay and keep posting and just don't respond to what you feel is a "negative" response....
THAT SAID:...I am on a ton of forums for all different reasons....
To get what I need from forums I have to ignore the comments that are not helpful for me...
But I can't categorize any site as black and white..as not helpful or really helpful...
There are people we won't get along with in every forum.
I hope you stay and keep posting and just don't respond to what you feel is a "negative" response....
Forum Leader
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 16,945
There are definitely lots of different folks here on SR, or any other online form for that mater AI. One of the things that's unique about a sobriety forum though is that the main topic of discussion ( sobriety ) is a dead-serious, life effecting one. So you will find that some people needed to take their sobriety as a life or-death matter, because it actually was.
What is it you would like to discuss or get help with today?
What is it you would like to discuss or get help with today?
Administrator
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,502
A134,
You have a choice to put members on Ignore if you feel they are belittling you.
You can also Report A Post, so a Moderator will look at it as soon as possible and deal with the issue.
Also, send me a PM anytime you have a problem. We do not allow any kind of flaming or bullying.
You have a choice to put members on Ignore if you feel they are belittling you.
You can also Report A Post, so a Moderator will look at it as soon as possible and deal with the issue.
Also, send me a PM anytime you have a problem. We do not allow any kind of flaming or bullying.
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,435
I'm really sorry you feel that way Al.
The one thing I love about SR is the multiplicity of methods in play here,.
About the only thing you won't find easily here is someone to cosign a decision to keep drinking or using - I think thats the way it should be on a recovery board?
Change is uncomfortable,& early recovery is a time of great sensitivity, but this community changed my life..saved it even.
A lot of people ticked me off in the beginning - a lot of people gave me excuses to leave - but I hung around and I'm glad I did.
Like Scott said, you'll find all kinds of people here, just like the real world.
Like Anna said, report a post - hit the red and white triangle beside the offending post
or put people on ignore
or PM a mod/admin for a chat.
This is a great site - lots of support here to be found - make it work for you
I know it's early days for you but things will get better
D
The one thing I love about SR is the multiplicity of methods in play here,.
About the only thing you won't find easily here is someone to cosign a decision to keep drinking or using - I think thats the way it should be on a recovery board?
Change is uncomfortable,& early recovery is a time of great sensitivity, but this community changed my life..saved it even.
A lot of people ticked me off in the beginning - a lot of people gave me excuses to leave - but I hung around and I'm glad I did.
Like Scott said, you'll find all kinds of people here, just like the real world.
Like Anna said, report a post - hit the red and white triangle beside the offending post
or put people on ignore
Ignore bothersome members. If there is someone on the forum that bothers you, select the Ignore option on the drop down menu under their name on the post. You won't see any posts from this member again.
This is a great site - lots of support here to be found - make it work for you
I know it's early days for you but things will get better
D
Member
Join Date: Jun 2019
Posts: 1,614
Good evening all. Um I hope by me posting that I dont offend anyone believe me that is not my intention whatsoever. I would like someone to address me if it feels out of pocket. What I can say is that anything I say comes from my heart I want us all to be well. I'll keep coming back.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 533
I would think there's more than enough shame to go around here.
No need to add to it.
I think it might be helpful to remember that folks here are in vaying degrees of pain, and sometimes not as eloquent as they normally would be.
Abuse is always something you can take to the mods for review.
No need to add to it.
I think it might be helpful to remember that folks here are in vaying degrees of pain, and sometimes not as eloquent as they normally would be.
Abuse is always something you can take to the mods for review.
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