Milano58

Anybody got any clear signs their Ex is getting worse, particularly if you're co-parenting? I've noticed that mine isn't always changing the kids clothes. He dresses like a bum at wkend handovers. Midwk he's in a work uniform so can't really tell.
Our son didn't want to go with him this wkend, which is a first.

EX isn't allowed drink round the kids but I've a feeling he is.

What should I be watching our for?
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SoberRican

All he going to do is get all defensive if you accuse him. Without actually seeing him booze. Tell signs are keeping a distance when talking so you dont smell him. Or what not. Eventually if he is hardcore will push the envelope and be like cool she couldnt tell I was boozing. Then drink a little more to see if it works cross the line then popped off cause you can't fake being sober if your boozed feel me

Milano58

I've noticed on Sundays he keeps his distance. He'll probably still smell of booze from night before. Its more his body language that gives it away. Unfortunately we don't have soberlink here. Its more.. I know alcohism doesn't plateau so he's gonna get worse. Legally I have to wait for him to neglect/hurt kids until I get sole custody. In the mean time the kids have probably started noticing his change in appearance, self care. He's gone from dad of the year (his brief sobriety stint with AA) to not so bothered. Just want to spot the signs of the next stage.. He's cancelled a few times, work, sickness etc. What's next guys?

Dazedandconfus