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doubt it. unless he is stopped while driving under the influence, no court is likely to place a restriction just cuz you say so.
if you know he is drunk when he gets in the car, you can call the police and report a suspected drunk driver. which may or may not amount to anything.
https://www.safewise.com/faq/auto-sa...-drunk-driver/
if you know he is drunk when he gets in the car, you can call the police and report a suspected drunk driver. which may or may not amount to anything.
https://www.safewise.com/faq/auto-sa...-drunk-driver/
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If you have the license plate number, just call the police and tell them he's under the influence. If you know where he's going, even better. (GPS Tracker for the win! - - *IF* it's legal where you live) I used to take AH's keys when I knew he was too drunk to drive, but sometimes that would result in an altercation. I wrestled with the idea of letting him do him without interfering vs. potentially saving a life or multiple lives by keeping him off the road.
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Dazed...apart from the public safety issue, why is this your responsibility? Even if you got a court order, would it stop the destructive behaviours showing themselves as something else you need to monitor - walking along balcony railings, busy highways or train tracks? Nup.
Its hard to just sit back and watch.
This journey we are on just sucks. Its hard and I hate it.
You can't control him and you can't fix it.
What are you doing to focus and look after you as your divorce approaches?
Its hard to just sit back and watch.
This journey we are on just sucks. Its hard and I hate it.
You can't control him and you can't fix it.
What are you doing to focus and look after you as your divorce approaches?
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Originally Posted by Wombaticus 
Dazed...apart from the public safety issue, why is this your responsibility? Even if you got a court order, would it stop the destructive behaviours showing themselves as something else you need to monitor - walking along balcony railings, busy highways or train tracks? Nup.
Its hard to just sit back and watch.
This journey we are on just sucks. Its hard and I hate it.
You can't control him and you can't fix it.
What are you doing to focus and look after you as your divorce approaches?
Its hard to just sit back and watch.
This journey we are on just sucks. Its hard and I hate it.
You can't control him and you can't fix it.
What are you doing to focus and look after you as your divorce approaches?
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I do believe it is your responsibility to take his keys if he is drunk, that's just my personal opinion, of course.
Now, doesn't mean snatch them out of his hand when he gets in the car but he needs to turn them over when he starts drinking.
I would let him know, no more drunk driving until we are divorced, I don't want the liability for it. If he will not agree I would ask him to move out now. Not next month or next week, today or tomorrow. Can you file for a legal separation while your divorce is progressing?
Call it a rule, call it a boundary, your financial future is on the line here (nevermind any poor innocent person he might hurt).
Now, doesn't mean snatch them out of his hand when he gets in the car but he needs to turn them over when he starts drinking.
I would let him know, no more drunk driving until we are divorced, I don't want the liability for it. If he will not agree I would ask him to move out now. Not next month or next week, today or tomorrow. Can you file for a legal separation while your divorce is progressing?
Call it a rule, call it a boundary, your financial future is on the line here (nevermind any poor innocent person he might hurt).
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Originally Posted by trailmix
I do believe it is your responsibility to take his keys if he is drunk, that's just my personal opinion, of course.
Now, doesn't mean snatch them out of his hand when he gets in the car but he needs to turn them over when he starts drinking.
I would let him know, no more drunk driving until we are divorced, I don't want the liability for it. If he will not agree I would ask him to move out now. Not next month or next week, today or tomorrow. Can you file for a legal separation while your divorce is progressing?
Call it a rule, call it a boundary, your financial future is on the line here (nevermind any poor innocent person he might hurt).
Now, doesn't mean snatch them out of his hand when he gets in the car but he needs to turn them over when he starts drinking.
I would let him know, no more drunk driving until we are divorced, I don't want the liability for it. If he will not agree I would ask him to move out now. Not next month or next week, today or tomorrow. Can you file for a legal separation while your divorce is progressing?
Call it a rule, call it a boundary, your financial future is on the line here (nevermind any poor innocent person he might hurt).
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