I’m scared
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I’m scared
Tomorrow the papers are being served. I am still at the hotel and plan to be until Saturday. I’m not sad really, kinda relieved. I never thought I would feel this way about this man. But he’s still drinking hard, and no telling what he could do.
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I had one idea...if you’re afraid he may be violent toward you or himself maybe go sit in the lobby of your nearest police station with your phone on. I assume he would react first by calling or texting you? Don’t answer so it will go to voicemail. If he does threaten you or himself, show the text or voicemail to the police?
You could also google the domestic violence hotline in your area and ask for advice?
Does he know where you’re staying?
You could also google the domestic violence hotline in your area and ask for advice?
Does he know where you’re staying?
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I think Aries suggests a good safe plan.....in fact, if he goes bezerk….the police can help you go to a domestic shelter where you will be safe.
If you stay at the hotel...will he know which one you are in?
Don't want to alarm you...but, it is important to keep in mind that when alcohol is on board and a person is feeling that they are losing control over you....it is impossible to predict what they might do....
Safety first.....
The domestic shelter can help you with overall safety planning....
If you stay at the hotel...will he know which one you are in?
Don't want to alarm you...but, it is important to keep in mind that when alcohol is on board and a person is feeling that they are losing control over you....it is impossible to predict what they might do....
Safety first.....
The domestic shelter can help you with overall safety planning....
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we so often try to predict how THEY will react....in fact we might sometimes have an agenda about their "preferred" reaction.....but many times they do NOT respond as we fretted, worried or hoped. then we are left to deal with how WE feel. which we aren't usually prepared for as we have spent so much time over in THEM.
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Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus 
It’s done. The server said he simply nodded his head. All this love, and it ends with a nod. He doesn’t know where I’m at, and it is highly doubtful he could even walk here. He is that far gone
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Originally Posted by honeypig
When I told XAH that I was filing for divorce, he said "well, you gotta do what you gotta do." Nineteen years married and 21 together, and that was the response. I understand your feelings, and I'm sorry you have to feel them.
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