Pressure vs. Self Care
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Pressure vs. Self Care
I have tried to get sober many times over the last 6 years....and failed.
This time I feel good about my sobriety lasting....and I was thinking...all the other times...I felt a lot of pressure to run around and prove to everyone..co-workers, family and friends...that I was sober and able to "show up".
I felt many times if I said no to invitations or requests...that people would think that I was drinking.
This time...I realize that SELF CARE is so important....I am getting pressure from a couple of "people" to do things their way...like I OWE it to them because I was a drunk.....
I have a schedule...that includes time to get ready at a slower pace in the morning for the day...eating something small for breakfast...making sure I tape my tv shows...making sure I make the necessary medical appointments....paying my city water bill on time....instead of pushing all my stuff aside feeling like well I better show up for this or that...or they will think I'm drunk....
NO..I better show up for MYSELF...my responsibilties and my HEALTH .
It will take time for people to GET that just because I'm saying NO does not mean I am drunk....it actually means the opposite.....I am getting healthy and taking care of #1....FIRST....ME.
This time I feel good about my sobriety lasting....and I was thinking...all the other times...I felt a lot of pressure to run around and prove to everyone..co-workers, family and friends...that I was sober and able to "show up".
I felt many times if I said no to invitations or requests...that people would think that I was drinking.
This time...I realize that SELF CARE is so important....I am getting pressure from a couple of "people" to do things their way...like I OWE it to them because I was a drunk.....
I have a schedule...that includes time to get ready at a slower pace in the morning for the day...eating something small for breakfast...making sure I tape my tv shows...making sure I make the necessary medical appointments....paying my city water bill on time....instead of pushing all my stuff aside feeling like well I better show up for this or that...or they will think I'm drunk....
NO..I better show up for MYSELF...my responsibilties and my HEALTH .
It will take time for people to GET that just because I'm saying NO does not mean I am drunk....it actually means the opposite.....I am getting healthy and taking care of #1....FIRST....ME.
Missy,
No matter what other think it's my life and I love my life.When loved life will pay back peace and healthy life.
I am self centred at the moment and that helps me to look after myself.
I do whatever it takes but never go back .
Take care
No matter what other think it's my life and I love my life.When loved life will pay back peace and healthy life.
I am self centred at the moment and that helps me to look after myself.
I do whatever it takes but never go back .
Take care
Hi, Misssy. I don’t have any pressure from others, per se, but I am a chronic procrastinator and realized very recently that self-care for me means that I need to better take care of my business instead of putting things off. I am only on day thirteen and have been on vacation abroad, so I don’t know what my new sober life will look like upon our return tonight. I know about myself that I like to take things slowly and deliberately. I hope to develop a healthy morning routine starting this weekend, to take my own time to develop this routine, and to stick with it. Best of luck to you! I have been reading your posts and am very happy that you are doing so well!
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Hi, Misssy. I don’t have any pressure from others, per se, but I am a chronic procrastinator and realized very recently that self-care for me means that I need to better take care of my business instead of putting things off. I am only on day thirteen and have been on vacation abroad, so I don’t know what my new sober life will look like upon our return tonight. I know about myself that I like to take things slowly and deliberately. I hope to develop a healthy morning routine starting this weekend, to take my own time to develop this routine, and to stick with it. Best of luck to you! I have been reading your posts and am very happy that you are doing so well!
I should go pay my water bill as well today!
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