Clean sheets are the best!
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Clean sheets are the best!
It took me almost 2 weeks to get to the point where I could wash my sheets....
I did it first thing this morning on day 13...and can't wait to get into bed tonight....sober and I really hope I sleep better.
Last night I had insomnia and it was really rough....
I was going to log on but sometimes typing makes me even more awake....
Hope everyone is doing ok today....and today I had to have a difficult convo with my Father...he hadn't taken a shower in a week....
So we watched a video on You Tube about what happens to your body when you don't take a shower.
Thankfully, after the video he said "Well I guess I should take a shower"...Whew..LOL
But sitting there watching the 5 minute video with him and feeling ...feelings...about my Dads end of life is tough sober...but I was "present" and helpful....so I will continue on this path.
I did it first thing this morning on day 13...and can't wait to get into bed tonight....sober and I really hope I sleep better.
Last night I had insomnia and it was really rough....
I was going to log on but sometimes typing makes me even more awake....
Hope everyone is doing ok today....and today I had to have a difficult convo with my Father...he hadn't taken a shower in a week....
So we watched a video on You Tube about what happens to your body when you don't take a shower.
Thankfully, after the video he said "Well I guess I should take a shower"...Whew..LOL
But sitting there watching the 5 minute video with him and feeling ...feelings...about my Dads end of life is tough sober...but I was "present" and helpful....so I will continue on this path.
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Originally Posted by nadt 
Hey, Missy!!! I agree crawling into bed a curling up in freshly washed sheets is the best! Sorry you didn't sleep, but glad you have something to look forward to you head to bed tonight!
I have not made him pay a dime...but we talked 2 months ago and I said it is time he starts helping or I am going to lose the house....and I set his budget on what he has to pay based on his bills.
Then his car broke down in the middle of May...so I told him we would start June 1.....June 1 comes he gets paid that week and doesn't pay me...because FINALLY he has a girlfriend....so since it was only 60 he had to pay that week...I kinda let it slide and planned on addressing it this Thursday when he has to pay 225.
He just got home from work...He hasn't paid in 2 years...and the last 3 weeks has had his check completely to himself...and he tells me he is trying to figure out WHY his account is overdrafted...
My anxiety went to 110 immediately...I am holding back...but Thursday I don't care about his f-ing problems....I am telling him I NEED the 225..
WTF.
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A thing I do with sheets. I put three bottom fitted sheets on my bed. Also three pillowcases. I only use a duvet comforter for the top. So when I feel the need for fresh sheets, I just strip off the top one and there is a clean one underneath. Works three times before I have to wash!
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I take doxylamine succinate (Unisom - but make sure it's not the kind with the active ingredient in Benadryl in it) to help me sleep. I have personally seen no side effects, but it might make some people groggy.
If Benadryl gives you unwanted side effects, this probably will too. They're both antihistamines.
If Benadryl gives you unwanted side effects, this probably will too. They're both antihistamines.
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Too late for me to do laundry tonite but that's happening tomorrow for sure! Sharing little things like this helps me remember all the things we DO have. How many people are homeless, etc.
Reminds me of washing the house down last week. It looked so different it might as well have been resided! And all it cost me was some much-needed exercise, which was free!!!
Reminds me of washing the house down last week. It looked so different it might as well have been resided! And all it cost me was some much-needed exercise, which was free!!!
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Originally Posted by KissMyTiara
A thing I do with sheets. I put three bottom fitted sheets on my bed. Also three pillowcases. I only use a duvet comforter for the top. So when I feel the need for fresh sheets, I just strip off the top one and there is a clean one underneath. Works three times before I have to wash!
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Originally Posted by ThatWasTheOldMe
I take doxylamine succinate (Unisom - but make sure it's not the kind with the active ingredient in Benadryl in it) to help me sleep. I have personally seen no side effects, but it might make some people groggy.
If Benadryl gives you unwanted side effects, this probably will too. They're both antihistamines.
If Benadryl gives you unwanted side effects, this probably will too. They're both antihistamines.
I also have Trazadone I could have taken.
However, it was 2am and if I took either of them I would have felt MORE like crap today because no matter what time I go to bed...I can't seem to ever sleep past 730....So...I have the stuff...but didn't take it...tonight I am tired...and I have my gummy bears...and clean sheets...so hopefully its a good nights rest.
Thank you thou.
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Originally Posted by BrianK
Too late for me to do laundry tonite but that's happening tomorrow for sure! Sharing little things like this helps me remember all the things we DO have. How many people are homeless, etc.
Reminds me of washing the house down last week. It looked so different it might as well have been resided! And all it cost me was some much-needed exercise, which was free!!!
Reminds me of washing the house down last week. It looked so different it might as well have been resided! And all it cost me was some much-needed exercise, which was free!!!
I got plenty of exercise yesterday thou mowing my Fathers lawn that was 2 feet high (and I'm not kidding..maybe 1.5 feet)...and that was after getting a lawn mower down the street for 35$ and getting it out of the trunk ALONE.
Um...yes...all the things I am grateful for...I am always grateful...I was even grateful while drunk....I am single....I worked my whole life...I've owned this house alone for over 20 years...its rough but I do it...and I'm blessed in that way.
My grass needs cutting tomorrow morning so you do your sheets..I will do MY grass.
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Treated myself to four new sheet sets, two plush sateen from Brooklinen for the winter. The duvet cover is graphite and steel pinstripes and I got one queen set in each of the two colors.
The other two are linen for summer, the Brooklinen duvet is cream with charcoal gray stripes. One set of sheets is Brooklinen cream and the other is Parachute charcoal. The Brooklinen is like sleeping on air, truly life changing! The parachute is heavier and rougher but feels more durable, and they will soften every time they're washed. I know a lot of people don't like the wrinkly linen look, but OMG, sleeping on linen sheets is da bomb.
When I was drinking I washed and changed the sheets sporadically, with the new sheets I'll do it biweekly....weekly is suggested, but seems extreme. Duvet will only get washed at the season change.
I'm due to change back to the other linen set, the softer than soft Brooklinen. Fresh sheets really are amazing!
I don't shave my legs, although there were times when I was bodybuilding when I shaved everything. It felt weird! I tried getting waxed about a year ago (they called it a bro-zillian, lol), it was interesting, but feel no need to repeat that experience.
The other two are linen for summer, the Brooklinen duvet is cream with charcoal gray stripes. One set of sheets is Brooklinen cream and the other is Parachute charcoal. The Brooklinen is like sleeping on air, truly life changing! The parachute is heavier and rougher but feels more durable, and they will soften every time they're washed. I know a lot of people don't like the wrinkly linen look, but OMG, sleeping on linen sheets is da bomb.
When I was drinking I washed and changed the sheets sporadically, with the new sheets I'll do it biweekly....weekly is suggested, but seems extreme. Duvet will only get washed at the season change.
I'm due to change back to the other linen set, the softer than soft Brooklinen. Fresh sheets really are amazing!
I don't shave my legs, although there were times when I was bodybuilding when I shaved everything. It felt weird! I tried getting waxed about a year ago (they called it a bro-zillian, lol), it was interesting, but feel no need to repeat that experience.
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Originally Posted by MindfulMan
Treated myself to four new sheet sets, two plush sateen from Brooklinen for the winter. The duvet cover is graphite and steel pinstripes and I got one queen set in each of the two colors.
The other two are linen for summer, the Brooklinen duvet is cream with charcoal gray stripes. One set of sheets is Brooklinen cream and the other is Parachute charcoal. The Brooklinen is like sleeping on air, truly life changing! The parachute is heavier and rougher but feels more durable, and they will soften every time they're washed. I know a lot of people don't like the wrinkly linen look, but OMG, sleeping on linen sheets is da bomb.
When I was drinking I washed and changed the sheets sporadically, with the new sheets I'll do it biweekly....weekly is suggested, but seems extreme. Duvet will only get washed at the season change.
I'm due to change back to the other linen set, the softer than soft Brooklinen. Fresh sheets really are amazing!
I don't shave my legs, although there were times when I was bodybuilding when I shaved everything. It felt weird! I tried getting waxed about a year ago (they called it a bro-zillian, lol), it was interesting, but feel no need to repeat that experience.
The other two are linen for summer, the Brooklinen duvet is cream with charcoal gray stripes. One set of sheets is Brooklinen cream and the other is Parachute charcoal. The Brooklinen is like sleeping on air, truly life changing! The parachute is heavier and rougher but feels more durable, and they will soften every time they're washed. I know a lot of people don't like the wrinkly linen look, but OMG, sleeping on linen sheets is da bomb.
When I was drinking I washed and changed the sheets sporadically, with the new sheets I'll do it biweekly....weekly is suggested, but seems extreme. Duvet will only get washed at the season change.
I'm due to change back to the other linen set, the softer than soft Brooklinen. Fresh sheets really are amazing!
I don't shave my legs, although there were times when I was bodybuilding when I shaved everything. It felt weird! I tried getting waxed about a year ago (they called it a bro-zillian, lol), it was interesting, but feel no need to repeat that experience.
Sheets are pricey...I only have 3 pairs...but mostly I just keep washing the one set that is on the bed.
I also think weekly is a little bit overboard...but I think bi-weekly is a MUST.
And when I drink...my bed goes unchanged sometimes for 2 months!
Because the drinking month...I have to first recover for a week or a week and 1/2...then I have to do "other" house chores that I was neglecting....washing floors and tub and toilets are the worst.
I now do the toilet daily like I used to....and then the 2nd month I seem to finally get to the sheets....this time the sheets were a priority.
Today cutting the grass is.
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I am a clean-sheet freak, and I think psychologically they are a symbol of my self-care and a delight each night.
When I used to drink heavily, I was terrible about getting my sheets changed. I had large dogs then so they would get really dirty and I would essentially ignore it.
I also think it is symbolic for me of my life sober compared to my life drinking. Night and Day, totally. . .
Glad you are doing well
When I used to drink heavily, I was terrible about getting my sheets changed. I had large dogs then so they would get really dirty and I would essentially ignore it.
I also think it is symbolic for me of my life sober compared to my life drinking. Night and Day, totally. . .
Glad you are doing well
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I'm happy that you're feeling good about what you're getting accomplished, Missy! When I didn't see you for a while yesterday I almost started a "searching for Missy" thread. Glad I didn't have to do that.
Have a good day!
Have a good day!
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Hi, Misssy.
Re your dad, the hygiene kinda drops down to the bottom of the list for some elderly.
My mom wears the same clothes over and over.
If I can get to her before she gets dressed I can switch out for fresh clothing.
It’s tough. Many folks strongly resist help in that area. I know my mom does.
Something to think about: if your dad is not clean or his clothes are not clean and he has to to the emergency room for any reason, his condition will be noted.
He may be considered an at risk senior and social workers or elderly services organizations may get involved.
This isn’t necessarily bad. They can provide services, like meals on wheels, a life alert system if needed, physical and occupational therapy, personal care.
Your dad may need none of that yet.
Resources are out there when he does need them.
Re your dad, the hygiene kinda drops down to the bottom of the list for some elderly.
My mom wears the same clothes over and over.
If I can get to her before she gets dressed I can switch out for fresh clothing.
It’s tough. Many folks strongly resist help in that area. I know my mom does.
Something to think about: if your dad is not clean or his clothes are not clean and he has to to the emergency room for any reason, his condition will be noted.
He may be considered an at risk senior and social workers or elderly services organizations may get involved.
This isn’t necessarily bad. They can provide services, like meals on wheels, a life alert system if needed, physical and occupational therapy, personal care.
Your dad may need none of that yet.
Resources are out there when he does need them.
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