Sundays are too damn long
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Sundays are too damn long
Yesterday was day 1 for me and boy was it awkward. The clock just did not move! Funny how drinking seemed to fill all that time.
I'm sure eventually it will feel less...empty.
D.
1 day
I'm sure eventually it will feel less...empty.
D.
1 day
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I'm not sure Sunday will be long for you in the future, but I know Day 1's are always long. And depending on where your head is, the first 30 days can really be all over the place.
But your level of acceptance and commitment to not drinking will determine how up and down you will be. I find the higher my level of acceptance, that I will not drink, not matter what, the less challenging I find staying sober.
But your level of acceptance and commitment to not drinking will determine how up and down you will be. I find the higher my level of acceptance, that I will not drink, not matter what, the less challenging I find staying sober.
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Oddly, Sunday seemed long for me too, but I think it's because it's been raining heavily for the last couple of days, and I've been cooped up. Which kind of underscores the oft given advice to those new to recovery; "Get out and do something."
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Yea I'm only on day 1 of first real quit. The first and only other time I quit was for only 2 weeks because I was newly on probation for drunk driving and was afraid of going to jail. Once I learned the system I started drinking again. But I do remember telling some workmates that the weekends seemed to last way longer. Like while drinking they just fly by. Longer the better.
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The long weekend afternoons always did me in, especially when I was in a good mood. "I must not be too bad if I'm not drinking to avoid misery, right? RIGHT???" Nope, still just as hungover and miserable the next day as if I had drunk out of anger or depression 
I've started making a "maybe" list of things I might like to add to my new life. Certain meetings, morning reflection times/routines as my sleep schedule normalizes, and maybe get back into martial arts. Kind of pulls all the threads of life together into a work of art, so just because I'm not "doing" something to occupy (or distract) myself at the moment doesn't mean I'm not Living. Each sober hour and day is a little closer to knowing more deeply what I'm supposed to do next. I hope.
I've started making a "maybe" list of things I might like to add to my new life. Certain meetings, morning reflection times/routines as my sleep schedule normalizes, and maybe get back into martial arts. Kind of pulls all the threads of life together into a work of art, so just because I'm not "doing" something to occupy (or distract) myself at the moment doesn't mean I'm not Living. Each sober hour and day is a little closer to knowing more deeply what I'm supposed to do next. I hope.
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Hey...your right....that was one of the first things I thought of on my Day 1...12 days ago.....
WTF is going on? Why is this day so freaking long? Drinking really does seem to pass the time....but it also puts me and most people in very poor health.
WTF is going on? Why is this day so freaking long? Drinking really does seem to pass the time....but it also puts me and most people in very poor health.
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Not to worry. The first days are a big WTF is going moments. Coming from someone with a lot of Day 1's in the back.
Weekends were awfully long and I did not even see the point on the day to day activities. Now I get excited about random stuff and I'm quite happy. Sometimes I can't wait the day to be over to start the next one
Weekends were awfully long and I did not even see the point on the day to day activities. Now I get excited about random stuff and I'm quite happy. Sometimes I can't wait the day to be over to start the next one
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Originally Posted by Hope1989 
Not to worry. The first days are a big WTF is going moments. Coming from someone with a lot of Day 1's in the back.
Weekends were awfully long and I did not even see the point on the day to day activities. Now I get excited about random stuff and I'm quite happy. Sometimes I can't wait the day to be over to start the next one
Weekends were awfully long and I did not even see the point on the day to day activities. Now I get excited about random stuff and I'm quite happy. Sometimes I can't wait the day to be over to start the next one
Like, "Aw, man, I know I gotta sleep now cuz I'm tired and need it, but I know how awesome it's gonna feel tomorrow morning and can't wait to get there!"
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Originally Posted by Petecrab
Day 1 again for me shamefully. And so far the day is going so slow
I hope you make a commitment to following a worthwhile plan of recovery and not try to do things on your own.
I got sober when I was about your age, and I can confirm that you have the opportunity to have a great, sober life.
Glad you're here.
Everyone on these forums have made many mistakes, so don't beat yourself up.
Just try to learn from the experience.
Glad you're here with us.
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Hi Cah. Thanks for your message. I’m doing well so far. I know I can’t do it alone but have got through the week. Once my gp change goes through I will make an appointment to try get some extra help. I stayed sober for nearly 3 years at the age of 26 so I know I can do it again (32 now!)
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