I could not care less....
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I could not care less....
Anyone go through a phase in life where you simply could care less about much of anything. We just live life a day at a time and not be concerned about a range of things from making people happy or paying the bills.
I go through these phases and I'm not sure if its normal.
What spurred this is I am minimal contact with my parents/family and they called today begging to see me. Its been 4 years since I've been in regular contact with them. My response: Meh.
Not sure thats normal.
I go through these phases and I'm not sure if its normal.
What spurred this is I am minimal contact with my parents/family and they called today begging to see me. Its been 4 years since I've been in regular contact with them. My response: Meh.
Not sure thats normal.
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I've grown distant from some family and I have to address my resentment when they're in town and it's simply expected that I come see them. Like I owe it to them to burn personal and vacation days from work on the chance that we might have a conversation. But I also don't want to upset my parents so in a way it's the honorable thing to do if they're not asking too much. My opinion: I don't think it's abnormal. Maybe indicates a deeper issue. But maybe that's just how you feel.
Id say if it's affecting your daily life then it's something you should talk to a therapist about. By that I mean if your depressive times are stopping you from doing things you'd normally do - go to work, get out of bed, etc. - then it's something you want to look into.
If it's just the mid life" Why do I even bother some days/why do I exist" then I'd say it's normal. Not pleasant, but a normal part of life to feel down at times.
If it's just the mid life" Why do I even bother some days/why do I exist" then I'd say it's normal. Not pleasant, but a normal part of life to feel down at times.
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Id say if it's affecting your daily life then it's something you should talk to a therapist about. By that I mean if your depressive times are stopping you from doing things you'd normally do - go to work, get out of bed, etc. - then it's something you want to look into.
If it's just the mid life" Why do I even bother some days/why do I exist" then I'd say it's normal. Not pleasant, but a normal part of life to feel down at times.
If it's just the mid life" Why do I even bother some days/why do I exist" then I'd say it's normal. Not pleasant, but a normal part of life to feel down at times.
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I'd echo what Scott said - and I'd say for me, it was a little tough to discern what was indeed "meh" (or, as I learned, the weird feeling of "being OK" which I confused w down sometimes) or more. Getting psych help was key.
I forget if or I think how long you have been sober so I may be repeating what you've heard from us before - it takes time. Getting used to the ups and downs- and, again, for me with meds and counseling and AA- was a big part of early sobriety. Especially the first yr.
Keep sharing- glad you've been here with us a while.
I forget if or I think how long you have been sober so I may be repeating what you've heard from us before - it takes time. Getting used to the ups and downs- and, again, for me with meds and counseling and AA- was a big part of early sobriety. Especially the first yr.
Keep sharing- glad you've been here with us a while.
I would argue that our mental health is as important (or even more important) than our physical health. And unlike many physical ailments, most mental health conditions don't just heal on their own. The good news is that things like anxiety and depression are very treatable and manageable.
Resentment? Anger? Frustration? Guilt? Aggravation? Regret?
I'd count "Meh" as a victory.
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Hey Jeff
Your last handful of threads all point to the same thing: You should probably get some counseling or outside assistance to determine the nature of what you are experiencing.
If your meh response felt ok to you you wouldn't be posting about it. So just get some counseling. Talk stuff out.
One of the many things that I struggle with is this: I am either completely cognitive, feeling very little. Or all feeling, and no ability to understand and think through those feelings. I need my thoughts to help me interpret the emotional world, and I need my emotions to not be, well, a robot. Bringing the cognitive and the emotional together is balanced. There are areas in my life where balance doesn't play a role. Like family. I am either complete off, or hurting. No ability to find a middle ground. I can't even imagine if anyone in my family actually reached out to me....that would be unprecedented!
Anyway, ask a professional.
Your last handful of threads all point to the same thing: You should probably get some counseling or outside assistance to determine the nature of what you are experiencing.
If your meh response felt ok to you you wouldn't be posting about it. So just get some counseling. Talk stuff out.
One of the many things that I struggle with is this: I am either completely cognitive, feeling very little. Or all feeling, and no ability to understand and think through those feelings. I need my thoughts to help me interpret the emotional world, and I need my emotions to not be, well, a robot. Bringing the cognitive and the emotional together is balanced. There are areas in my life where balance doesn't play a role. Like family. I am either complete off, or hurting. No ability to find a middle ground. I can't even imagine if anyone in my family actually reached out to me....that would be unprecedented!
Anyway, ask a professional.
I'll echo what everyone else has said. Time to see someone about it. Does sound like some mild depression going on, because you've been posting for a good while about feeling this way. It's "normal" to have periods of time when you feel "meh," but if it continues for a while, it's probably a sign something is off chemically in your brain.
I always felt better after seeing my counselor. She understood what I was going thru and gave me different perspectives to think about. It was nice to be able to unload on her for an hour a week.
I'd suggest seeing about having counseling. Might be good for you.
I'd suggest seeing about having counseling. Might be good for you.
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I wish I could care less, I care too much about too many things. Every little thing is stressing me out and I’m overwhelmed overthinking. I feel a few days in bed staring at the wall not caring would be good. I understand what it’s like to want to be the happy, easy going, involved with the world person too.
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Popped in to ask how you are, too, Jeff! So, as always, what Dee said
Two things also popped into my mind - like mariposa reminded me, plenty of times I care too much. Getting used to and more even between that and the meh took time and effort and "re-training...."
I'd also add that no one deserves or has to feel bad- I mean that in one sense, bc I def didn't feel I deserved good feelings when I was getting sober. And like we've been saying, dr help (and for some of us, me included, meds) that help are ok, good (and sometimes, take a bit of time to accept it's fine to need!).
Keep going - and sharing.
Two things also popped into my mind - like mariposa reminded me, plenty of times I care too much. Getting used to and more even between that and the meh took time and effort and "re-training...."
I'd also add that no one deserves or has to feel bad- I mean that in one sense, bc I def didn't feel I deserved good feelings when I was getting sober. And like we've been saying, dr help (and for some of us, me included, meds) that help are ok, good (and sometimes, take a bit of time to accept it's fine to need!).
Keep going - and sharing.
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Hi Everyone, thanks for your concerns. Things are fine today, but I do realize that the feelings I have been having are not going away. They are not intensifying, but not disappearing either.
The family issue is just a twist, a wrinkle if you will. I have decided I will go see them Thursday after the gym. Father's day is coming up and I feel a sense of obligation to visit. Its been a long time. Probably just over year.
Here's the scary part and Scott mentioned this, its tough to come to grips that something is not right in your head. In your mind. Admitting I am an alcoholic was very hard, now I need to admit my brain doesn't work as well as I think it should. Not a pleasant thought.
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Popped in to ask how you are, too, Jeff! So, as always, what Dee said
Two things also popped into my mind - like mariposa reminded me, plenty of times I care too much. Getting used to and more even between that and the meh took time and effort and "re-training...."
I'd also add that no one deserves or has to feel bad- I mean that in one sense, bc I def didn't feel I deserved good feelings when I was getting sober. And like we've been saying, dr help (and for some of us, me included, meds) that help are ok, good (and sometimes, take a bit of time to accept it's fine to need!).
Keep going - and sharing.
Two things also popped into my mind - like mariposa reminded me, plenty of times I care too much. Getting used to and more even between that and the meh took time and effort and "re-training...."
I'd also add that no one deserves or has to feel bad- I mean that in one sense, bc I def didn't feel I deserved good feelings when I was getting sober. And like we've been saying, dr help (and for some of us, me included, meds) that help are ok, good (and sometimes, take a bit of time to accept it's fine to need!).
Keep going - and sharing.
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