Jewelweed

After being married for 25 years, and h being sober for 20 of those years, he has moved out and informed me he is ready to resume his drinking and drugging lifestyle. I have been down that road and told him, no way was I going backwards in life. He has made the choice to stay out of the relationship, since I have given him an "ultimatum". I wish he would have made this decision 20 years ago when he made the choice the first time. I have invested all those years with a partner I thought was going to grow old with me. How sad. Thanks for letting me vent.

Dee at Mt Bully

Gee my heart goes out to you--I agree why didn't he just get out 20 years ago and
isn't it a mess how they can always turn it around so it is your fault. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Hopefully most of the 20 years that he was sober were good--thats something--some of us would be thrilled with 20 good years. Please
stay in touch and let us know how you are.---Smiles--Dee

frankly

Jewelweed - I am so sorry, I too am mourning the loss of the partner that I had expected to grow old with. I know the pain and anger you are feeling right now. Man it seems sometimes like we are damned it you do and damned it you don't huh? I have no advice to give on this one. Just know that you are not alone and I'm sure these wonderful people will help you through this.

Hugs and Prayers
MsB

Jewelweed

I am thankful for those twenty years, Dee. I realize I am lucky to have had those years to raise our children in a sober home. Hopefully, the hypocrisy of it all might be easier for them to understand as adults. And they are wonderul adults. Frankly, You are right on, I am mourning, and that's exactly what it feels like. Your support and the support of this website means the world to me. Thank you.