Alcoholic Complaining About Dehydration-duh
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Alcoholic Complaining About Dehydration-duh
Alcoholic been complaining a lot about dehydration over the last year or so well duh. More recently complaining he gets too hot. He blames it on everything BUT his drinking going so far to blame temperatures in other people's homes & businesses or the doctors didn't give the right medication since "they know he works out". As usual it's always somebody else's fault.
His first drink is getting earlier/ much closer to one of those workouts. Most of his complaints stem from recreational activity including workouts, games, sports leagues and even outside barbecues. In cooler temperatures-not cold weather he also complains about being cold all of the time.
One question his how hard or much longer can he workout with increased drinking. Being a gym rat is a major part of his life but so are bars, restaurants, parties etc. He has been using supplements and/or sports drinks for years which put him in a state of agitation which could cause increased sweating and dehydration. Sooner or later the lifestyles will clash/conflict.
The blame game gets tiresome but their audacity never ceases to amaze me.
His first drink is getting earlier/ much closer to one of those workouts. Most of his complaints stem from recreational activity including workouts, games, sports leagues and even outside barbecues. In cooler temperatures-not cold weather he also complains about being cold all of the time.
One question his how hard or much longer can he workout with increased drinking. Being a gym rat is a major part of his life but so are bars, restaurants, parties etc. He has been using supplements and/or sports drinks for years which put him in a state of agitation which could cause increased sweating and dehydration. Sooner or later the lifestyles will clash/conflict.
The blame game gets tiresome but their audacity never ceases to amaze me.
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You've touched on one of the most absurd things about living
with an active alcoholic- the physical symptoms progress and they
will never acknowledge the alcohol. I began to say worriome things
to ah just to get him to go to a doctor, like, oh that pitting edema is
not good or your blood pressure is not controlled on those meds &
your at risk for stroke & heart attack. Then I shut up.
The ones that made me shake my head the most were the constant
complaints about not being able to lose weight (he was drinking
1500 cal a day) and how the dryer was suddenly shrinking all his
shirts ;D
Eventually it was the physical symptoms that scared him enough
to stop drinking. He had stage 4 kidney failure that has improved
but the alcohol hit his kidneys hardest.
with an active alcoholic- the physical symptoms progress and they
will never acknowledge the alcohol. I began to say worriome things
to ah just to get him to go to a doctor, like, oh that pitting edema is
not good or your blood pressure is not controlled on those meds &
your at risk for stroke & heart attack. Then I shut up.
The ones that made me shake my head the most were the constant
complaints about not being able to lose weight (he was drinking
1500 cal a day) and how the dryer was suddenly shrinking all his
shirts ;D
Eventually it was the physical symptoms that scared him enough
to stop drinking. He had stage 4 kidney failure that has improved
but the alcohol hit his kidneys hardest.
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Originally Posted by mylifeismine 
You've touched on one of the most absurd things about living
with an active alcoholic- the physical symptoms progress and they
will never acknowledge the alcohol. I began to say worriome things
to ah just to get him to go to a doctor, like, oh that pitting edema is
not good or your blood pressure is not controlled on those meds &
your at risk for stroke & heart attack. Then I shut up.
The ones that made me shake my head the most were the constant
complaints about not being able to lose weight (he was drinking
1500 cal a day) and how the dryer was suddenly shrinking all his
shirts ;D
Eventually it was the physical symptoms that scared him enough
to stop drinking. He had stage 4 kidney failure that has improved
but the alcohol hit his kidneys hardest.
with an active alcoholic- the physical symptoms progress and they
will never acknowledge the alcohol. I began to say worriome things
to ah just to get him to go to a doctor, like, oh that pitting edema is
not good or your blood pressure is not controlled on those meds &
your at risk for stroke & heart attack. Then I shut up.
The ones that made me shake my head the most were the constant
complaints about not being able to lose weight (he was drinking
1500 cal a day) and how the dryer was suddenly shrinking all his
shirts ;D
Eventually it was the physical symptoms that scared him enough
to stop drinking. He had stage 4 kidney failure that has improved
but the alcohol hit his kidneys hardest.
Do they still use that dryer or let you do it for him?
Funny you mention kidney failure because he says his doctors 'think' he has developed diabetes and shows many signs of kidney trouble including high blood pressure he can't get under control with multiple medications & working out. From what I've read kidneys help regulate blood pressure.
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Uncontrolled high blood pressure is very damaging to kidneys, as
is alcohol and high glucose (pre-diabetes) was becoming an issue
as well. It's not mentioned like cirrhosis of the liver is, but you
can do irreparable damage to your kidneys to the point of needing
dialysis.
is alcohol and high glucose (pre-diabetes) was becoming an issue
as well. It's not mentioned like cirrhosis of the liver is, but you
can do irreparable damage to your kidneys to the point of needing
dialysis.
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Originally Posted by Lunchbox1
Why do they think they can counteract alcoholism with exercise?
Here the alcoholic has used steroids for "recovery". He always talks about how steroids speed up recovery which in turn increases strength from more or harder workers. That's how he rationalizes it anyway. He was/is a huge defender of baseball's Barry Bonds among others. But those steroids also probably contributed to his current high blood pressure and small strokes among other things. As did drinking lots of sports drinks-"It's supposed to be good for you" but only in the proper context like during or right after a workout and not hours before or after.
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"Why do they think they can counteract alcoholism with exercise?"
Denial.
Reality is denied in addiction - for the addict and the whole family.
Until one member seeks recovery and support to confront
the reality of their life and make changes.
RAH, while experiencing the symptoms of kidney damage,
actually said he thought eliminating pectin from his diet
would make him all better. Insanity.
Denial.
Reality is denied in addiction - for the addict and the whole family.
Until one member seeks recovery and support to confront
the reality of their life and make changes.
RAH, while experiencing the symptoms of kidney damage,
actually said he thought eliminating pectin from his diet
would make him all better. Insanity.
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Piping in as the alcoholic here...my body sustained so much damage in countless ways, and I generally refused to attribute ANY of it to my drinking. Ha. Falls and bruises escalated to ER visits for seizures, not to mention the "benign" stuff like restless sleep (duh), or why meds didn't seem effective or hair loss or.....
Denial - escapism- shame- "it's not my fault"- but I eat right- or, see, I still run every day....countless things we come up with that are indeed INSANE to the outsider. IME, there isn't something we can really say to explain it to non-alcoholics. Not really.
I'm sorry when anyone lives with the active alcoholic- my dad is still married to my mom and it was a storm for all of us but we did get thru - and she eventually got sober.
Sending support and hope for you to make good decisions to take care of you.
Denial - escapism- shame- "it's not my fault"- but I eat right- or, see, I still run every day....countless things we come up with that are indeed INSANE to the outsider. IME, there isn't something we can really say to explain it to non-alcoholics. Not really.
I'm sorry when anyone lives with the active alcoholic- my dad is still married to my mom and it was a storm for all of us but we did get thru - and she eventually got sober.
Sending support and hope for you to make good decisions to take care of you.
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Originally Posted by mylifeismine
"Why do they think they can counteract alcoholism with exercise?"
Denial.
Reality is denied in addiction - for the addict and the whole family.
Until one member seeks recovery and support to confront
the reality of their life and make changes.
RAH, while experiencing the symptoms of kidney damage,
actually said he thought eliminating pectin from his diet
would make him all better. Insanity.
Denial.
Reality is denied in addiction - for the addict and the whole family.
Until one member seeks recovery and support to confront
the reality of their life and make changes.
RAH, while experiencing the symptoms of kidney damage,
actually said he thought eliminating pectin from his diet
would make him all better. Insanity.
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Sounds like it is upsetting you a lot more than him.
Living with an alcoholic is incredibly stressful on body and mind.
What are you doing to get some distance from this and take care of your own health? Lots of family members actually get sick or die long before the alcoholic because they've been in a situation that is highly toxic to hem for years.
Very sad but true.
Living with an alcoholic is incredibly stressful on body and mind.
What are you doing to get some distance from this and take care of your own health? Lots of family members actually get sick or die long before the alcoholic because they've been in a situation that is highly toxic to hem for years.
Very sad but true.
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
Sounds like it is upsetting you a lot more than you.
He now blames an undocumented family history of his current ailments and berates most of the family's doctors as incompetent because uses 'only the best'.
I get it's good to try and remove or get one out of the situation but circumstances and other people frequently make that harder or slow it down. There is codependency but sometimes business or things get too intermeshed for a quick exit.
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I'm not sure a "quick exit" is quite as important as a definitive one.
"I don't want to hear about this anymore" said enough times, will make your position clear. And if they persist, that's when "I'm not going to listen to this anymore" is necessary.
"I don't want to hear about this anymore" said enough times, will make your position clear. And if they persist, that's when "I'm not going to listen to this anymore" is necessary.
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I agree with Sparkle quest--if you aren't in proximity, and are getting this via unsolicited "3rd party reporting", time to pull the plug on receiving such transmissions.
I am pretty direct about this stuff--I tell the person who is dumping such toxic stuff straight out "I find this stressful and I do not want to hear about it now or in the future. I'm sorry it is happening, but I can't change it, so please do not update me any longer."
It is hard to do the first time or two, but actually after that it feels pretty good because you are taking care of you, and not indulging someone else's need to spread negative news.
I am pretty direct about this stuff--I tell the person who is dumping such toxic stuff straight out "I find this stressful and I do not want to hear about it now or in the future. I'm sorry it is happening, but I can't change it, so please do not update me any longer."
It is hard to do the first time or two, but actually after that it feels pretty good because you are taking care of you, and not indulging someone else's need to spread negative news.
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