Drunk driving and social anxiety .
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Drunk driving and social anxiety .
Folks,
Most of you knew that I got a conviction of drink driving in UK and lost my license for 24 months .After that I keep myself isolated because of social anxiety.
1.I get disconnected from friends and society.
2.People ask about my car at job and saying is on repair.
3.Cant dare to tell extended family .
4.I am getting a burden to my.wife as I am depressed at all time.
5.I feel unsocial as I have to declare this on every social and charity ventures.And for 11 years ???
6.I do not want a label of drunk and irresponsible person in society and friendship circle.
Could you share your experiences here how did you manage yours ?
It can be a huge relief for me.Thanks all.
Most of you knew that I got a conviction of drink driving in UK and lost my license for 24 months .After that I keep myself isolated because of social anxiety.
1.I get disconnected from friends and society.
2.People ask about my car at job and saying is on repair.
3.Cant dare to tell extended family .
4.I am getting a burden to my.wife as I am depressed at all time.
5.I feel unsocial as I have to declare this on every social and charity ventures.And for 11 years ???
6.I do not want a label of drunk and irresponsible person in society and friendship circle.
Could you share your experiences here how did you manage yours ?
It can be a huge relief for me.Thanks all.
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You don't have to declare it on every social venture you have. It's only if you apply for something where you need an enhanced CRB/PVG check where it will come up. You don't need to tell anyone. Unless you drive for a living and need to tell your boss as are now unable to do your job.
Maybe see your doctor for your anxiety and focus on the things you are able to deal with. Maybe say you've decided not to drive for a while to focus on your health. Though really, it isn't anyone else's business.
Maybe see your doctor for your anxiety and focus on the things you are able to deal with. Maybe say you've decided not to drive for a while to focus on your health. Though really, it isn't anyone else's business.
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HI Readyatlast,
Thank you for your supporting heart
Its scary to declare on form whie applying .We were thinking to apply for a community charity where I was supposed to be a board member .I am scary to say yes because charity resistration needs a criminal disclosure.It will be visible to all board of directers.
They will see me in a negative way .And I may not be eligible for a board of directer ???
Because of social anxiety my life became paralysed.Another joint venture business is on pipeline and I am thinking to withdraw my ownership .
I am involved in few joint ventures and has a guilt and been remourseful.
I can't socialise because of trasport .
People think that i made a mess !::
Need more support to generate my brave .
Do you folk think I need to commit my hell to all related ?
Thanks for listening to me
Thank you for your supporting heart
Its scary to declare on form whie applying .We were thinking to apply for a community charity where I was supposed to be a board member .I am scary to say yes because charity resistration needs a criminal disclosure.It will be visible to all board of directers.
They will see me in a negative way .And I may not be eligible for a board of directer ???
Because of social anxiety my life became paralysed.Another joint venture business is on pipeline and I am thinking to withdraw my ownership .
I am involved in few joint ventures and has a guilt and been remourseful.
I can't socialise because of trasport .
People think that i made a mess !::
Need more support to generate my brave .
Do you folk think I need to commit my hell to all related ?
Thanks for listening to me
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I have to declare my record always in my profession , they WILL find anything even expungements. Time passes, be honest to employers but as for everyone else, you owe no explanation. We all make mistakes and this one will be a tough lesson but learn and grow from it. It always makes me ashamed to admit it on an application but we are humans. You never know, you may have a boss who has also messed up but is understanding. Right now just focus on you and quitting alcohol.
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Not having transportation on your own can be a real difficulty, particularly when it comes to fulfilling your commitments for work and for your charity aid in the community. You are going to be dealing with it for quite some time, and the story of the auto being under repair is not going to last forever. You will not be available to drive others in their vehicles, either.
You may have to explain to a few people that you were found guilty of a traffic violation and have lost your privilege to drive for the time being. You don't have to say anything more than that, but some people are going to need to know that you will not be a driver for a while. That probably includes some people at work and quite possibly your extended family. You will not be able to lie your way through this for two years, it seems to me. New acquaintances don't need to know your specific situation.
People who do know the details may think that you acted stupidly or irresponsibly. You did. I have. But you will no longer be trying to hide something that is just may come out in some other way than from you. It seems to be eating you up now, and getting it off your chest may be helpful.
On the other hand, it is a risk to see how others will react, a consequence that is up to you to decide if you are willing to take it. It's a horrible decision to face, isn't it? It's also a good reason not to drink, if you think about all the other things that can happen if you do. None of this is easy to remedy.
You may have to explain to a few people that you were found guilty of a traffic violation and have lost your privilege to drive for the time being. You don't have to say anything more than that, but some people are going to need to know that you will not be a driver for a while. That probably includes some people at work and quite possibly your extended family. You will not be able to lie your way through this for two years, it seems to me. New acquaintances don't need to know your specific situation.
People who do know the details may think that you acted stupidly or irresponsibly. You did. I have. But you will no longer be trying to hide something that is just may come out in some other way than from you. It seems to be eating you up now, and getting it off your chest may be helpful.
On the other hand, it is a risk to see how others will react, a consequence that is up to you to decide if you are willing to take it. It's a horrible decision to face, isn't it? It's also a good reason not to drink, if you think about all the other things that can happen if you do. None of this is easy to remedy.
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I haven;t had a DUI but only because I never drove so I could easily be you Paul.
I think it's important to remember you're not the only person who's ever faced this - lots of other people have made that same mistake, from all walks of life from Lords to Judges and all kinds of upright respectable people..
I think the healthy way to look at it is you're not a drink driver you're a person who's found recovery,
Declare it when you have to - when you don;t have to it's nobodys business but yours.
I hope it won't count against you too often, if at all
D
I think it's important to remember you're not the only person who's ever faced this - lots of other people have made that same mistake, from all walks of life from Lords to Judges and all kinds of upright respectable people..
I think the healthy way to look at it is you're not a drink driver you're a person who's found recovery,
Declare it when you have to - when you don;t have to it's nobodys business but yours.
I hope it won't count against you too often, if at all
D
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All I made a mantra that I am reminding myself time to time until that goes into subconscious .
I am free from anxiety and judgement .
I accept my life as it is so healing started already.
I am on recovery .
No matter waht I am confident .
Have a good day !!
More advices are welcome
Wanted to chat with someone who is in my situation ...take care !
I am free from anxiety and judgement .
I accept my life as it is so healing started already.
I am on recovery .
No matter waht I am confident .
Have a good day !!
More advices are welcome
Wanted to chat with someone who is in my situation ...take care !
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