Paulsandy

Hi everyone,
I was drinking nut very much unanimously .So I have maintained the social life.When I drank I did it until I felt almost lost.And I would take a food and sleep.I was doing this on my own as there were no one to notice it.So did not get involved public damage.I was also looking after my health , with good food ,checking liver function,cholesterol ,blood pressure,sugar etc.Still everything is in control however I have noticed that my brain is affected a lot.
1. My cognition is poor.
2. As I was living alone and my work pattern was a lone worker I developed a too much self talking.
3. So I have difficulties to listen to others.I am focused on my thoughts and cant process others talking properly in my brain.

I never drove a long when drunk .But what happened to me was I was driving to the shop 200 meters away from home in a quite road ,I lost my control and crashed my car with parked cars.When I came to my home I could see someone was following me .He reported to police and I convicted ,
1. Banned for 24 months.
2. Community order for 80 Hours unpaid works.
3. Court fine.
Now I am worried that I have to disclose it everywhere even applying a group visa,opening up a charity ,a private business, applying for a job and so on.....Because of all this I am hesitant to get socialised. I see my life is paralyzed.

A sharing of your experiences ,who you have/had this issues and how you overcame/overcoming them would be appreciated .So that I feel I am not alone .
Thanks for sharing.I also would prefer to chat with you privately if you feel comfortable.
Thanks buddy !!!

ReadyAtLast

I'm in the UK too and got a drink driving conviction years ago. I try and look on the bright side. I didn't kill anyone or injure anyone, only myself.

It doesn't really matter whether you were on a quiet road or not, there is always the chance someone could have been driving along it with their children so just be grateful you didn't kill anyone. I tell myself I'm grateful I was caught before I killed anyone the next time.

I know people in the US on here who have been caught for it too. The laws are different there as can be reduced to a lower charge. As you know, here in the UK, it is an automatic minimum 12 month driving ban, longer depending on the circumstances.

Yes you have to disclose it but it is what it is. I've had to disclose it on job applications and it comes on on advanced CRB/PVG checks as it's 11 years before it's a spent conviction and doesn't need to be disclosed. There is nothing you can do about it other than get and stay sober and ensure it doesn't happen again.

Maybe go to AA meetings and get advice from people in similar situations too. Your life isn't paralsyed. You will get through this and move on. Yes there may be limitations but you will be able to work round this.

D122y

My addiction was the culmination of 45 years of drinking. It was all I really knew. It was sewn into my being.

I had to begin a new life. A new lifestyle. I had to grow up. I had to suffer like never before.

That was my only way out.

Ther are plenty of ex drunks around here that you can chat with most always.

I suffered hell on earth getting clean. That suffering made my sobriety that much more amazing.

Thanks.

AnvilheadII

have you applied for a job and been denied due to pre-existing conditions? applying for a group visa? tried to open a charity?

often the things we worry about that have not happened, never happen. and if we do encounter obstacles, there are many options to navigate around them, legally.

Paulsandy

Hi Anvil,
Thank you for reminding me the reality that most of the things we are thinking may not happen in the future.This is the way we create our worries .I will remind myself that if I am stronger I will have the legal options to achieve them.Thanks folk !

Paulsandy

Thanks mate !!!
I am grateful too for not having any human loss .Anyway I have to recover the third party insurance which is on the way !! .Seems I damaged two expensive cars and the cost of expenses yet to come .Have you had this issue in you case ??. If so how did you settled ? ..Could you please PM me in this regard ?
Its all about rating out here and release the negative emotions of this trauma and regain the confidence accepting the mistake .Thank you again for being a help ...Take care

Paulsandy

Hope you are peaceful with your mantra !!
My Mantra is SOFTTECH SSDR FAULT all letters have their own meaning .I think you do arrange your mantra on that way !!!

daisy1

I have always been very successful in my career and was a specialist nurse responsible for every oxygen patient in the county I live in. That's all gone now and I have been let go due to ill health, so it's all gone because of alcohol.
After so many years of working so hard I'm now on benefits and instead of worrying about what will come next, I'm using this time to heal. I have no money which I don't like, but I'm resting for the first time in my life and I like it.
Don't push yourself too hard and worry too much if that's possible. Use this time to reflect and heal yourself. Be kind to yourself because don't forget you have been through a bad time.

ReadyAtLast

Hi, your insurers will settle the TP damage with their insurers. If you receive any correspondence from the people whose cars you damaged just pass it straight on the your insurer.

Your insurers may come after you for the money at a later date due to the conviction but they did not with me. but they will pay the TP damage in any event.

Paulsandy

Hi Ready,
How long has it been with your case ? .I knew that insurance company may turn back to you after a year too.Are you in UK ?.What damage did you cause ?. Would love to receive your experiences in my private message box.Thank you for your support .Regards